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Hello everyone! I’m hoping to find some help with the recent introduction of my new cat and resident cats. I currently live with my roommate and we each have our own cat. Their introduction happened within a day and they are extremely close. I will be moving in a little under a month so I was nervous having my cat live alone after the move (she’s always been with another cat). Since I’m home until my new job starts in June I thought this would be the perfect time to get my cat a friend. The new cat is a little over a year (same age as the other two resident cats). She was a stray who was recently brought in extremely sick with her kittens (who didn’t make it :(). After getting better she was spayed and during this whole time she stayed with her foster. The foster had 8 adults cats that she was able to get along with them no problems at all with no aggression. She was brought in in March and I just adopted her. Since I brought her home I’ve kept her in my room and she was hissing at the door at first. I’ve been feeding both cats by the door and they were doing okay and the hissing by the door stopped. We did some site swapping and that went well so we decided to do a baby gate visit. Initially there was some growling and hissing and we closed the door and tried again later. Eventually they would just sit by the gate looking at one another, no aggression. We decided to try a meet and greet finally since the new cat was very interested in leaving the room. Again initially a little aggression that we would break up and take a break from. Eventually they were starting to play and it seemed to be going well. Later that day my cat tried going into my room (the new cats safe space) the new cat let her in initially but when I walked in to watch, my resident cat ran out and the new cat charged at her. We separated them and tried again the next day and the same thing happened with my roommates cat. The new cat has become very aggressive recently and is now hissing and growling even through the baby gates and wants to get out to go after our resident cats. I’ve kept her in my room and I have not let her see the resident cats since. Today we did a room swap and she would not leave the area by the door. The was hissing at the door and seemed upset. I tried to distract her and play and ended up putting a towel under the door so she couldn’t see the shadows. She’s super friendly to me and loves cuddles and loves to play in my room but I’m having a very tough time introducing her. The resident cat’s are super sweet, not at all aggressive and just interested in meeting her. Since the charging they are a little more cautious going near the door and I think a little afraid. It has been 5 days total so not too long and I’m concerned I may have just rushed the process. I’m nervous this may have ruined the relationship between the cat’s and I’m not sure what to do. I’m just very upset and only wanted to try and find a friend for my cat before our move. Especially while I had the time to spend with them and introduce them. We have about two and a half weeks until the move and I’m concerned the move may make things worse. Any advice would be appreciated!! I sincerely want this to work out between them. I already love my new little one so much and I absolutely do not want to re-home her.
 

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Yep, it was a little rushed, most introductions take several weeks, but All Is Not Lost! Back up, regroup, and try again! I'm going to give you links for a couple of excellent articles on introducing and fixing failed introductions. They're easy reads, and chock-full of good ideas! Time is your friend! These things cannot be rushed, and you can only go as fast as the most reluctant cat is willing to go!

As for your move...I'd recommend that you get a couple of cheap sheets from Walmart or such, and place them where the cats will lounge around and shed ALL OVER them. Then, just before you move, cut the sheets into squares, about 18"x18", fold them up fur-side-in, and place in a bag. When you get to your new home, before you let the cats out, place a few squares from each cat in every room. That way, where ever they go, they will find something that smells familiar to them! You're basically giving them "instant territory"

NOW FOR THOSE ARTICLES!

How To Successfully Introduce Cats: The Ultimate Guide
Introducing Cats To Cats
How To Fix An Unsuccessful Cat Introduction
 
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Thank you so much!! The articles were extremely helpful and I love the sheet idea! 😊
 

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Hello everyone! I’m hoping to find some help with the recent introduction of my new cat and resident cats. I currently live with my roommate and we each have our own cat. Their introduction happened within a day and they are extremely close. I will be moving in a little under a month so I was nervous having my cat live alone after the move (she’s always been with another cat). Since I’m home until my new job starts in June I thought this would be the perfect time to get my cat a friend. The new cat is a little over a year (same age as the other two resident cats). She was a stray who was recently brought in extremely sick with her kittens (who didn’t make it :(). After getting better she was spayed and during this whole time she stayed with her foster. The foster had 8 adults cats that she was able to get along with them no problems at all with no aggression. She was brought in in March and I just adopted her. Since I brought her home I’ve kept her in my room and she was hissing at the door at first. I’ve been feeding both cats by the door and they were doing okay and the hissing by the door stopped. We did some site swapping and that went well so we decided to do a baby gate visit. Initially there was some growling and hissing and we closed the door and tried again later. Eventually they would just sit by the gate looking at one another, no aggression. We decided to try a meet and greet finally since the new cat was very interested in leaving the room. Again initially a little aggression that we would break up and take a break from. Eventually they were starting to play and it seemed to be going well. Later that day my cat tried going into my room (the new cats safe space) the new cat let her in initially but when I walked in to watch, my resident cat ran out and the new cat charged at her. We separated them and tried again the next day and the same thing happened with my roommates cat. The new cat has become very aggressive recently and is now hissing and growling even through the baby gates and wants to get out to go after our resident cats. I’ve kept her in my room and I have not let her see the resident cats since. Today we did a room swap and she would not leave the area by the door. The was hissing at the door and seemed upset. I tried to distract her and play and ended up putting a towel under the door so she couldn’t see the shadows. She’s super friendly to me and loves cuddles and loves to play in my room but I’m having a very tough time introducing her. The resident cat’s are super sweet, not at all aggressive and just interested in meeting her. Since the charging they are a little more cautious going near the door and I think a little afraid. It has been 5 days total so not too long and I’m concerned I may have just rushed the process. I’m nervous this may have ruined the relationship between the cat’s and I’m not sure what to do. I’m just very upset and only wanted to try and find a friend for my cat before our move. Especially while I had the time to spend with them and introduce them. We have about two and a half weeks until the move and I’m concerned the move may make things worse. Any advice would be appreciated!! I sincerely want this to work out between them. I already love my new little one so much and I absolutely do not want to re-home her.
I agree, it was a bit rushed but it can be fixed.

Work on making positive associations (feeding on each side of the door), maximize positive encounters (for now scent only) and minimize, reduce, eliminate any negative associations and use distraction (a toy, food, words) to avoid a negative (or potential) encounter.

And during this work on building their confidence as a confident cat is more likely to accept and be accepted. We build confidence through Play, Food, Height and Love. So step up play with them and feed after play. Give them places to go high (cat tree) and get their scent on to "own" the territory (scratching posts, comfy bedding, etc). And finally, Love. Be as calm and confident around them as possible as cats take on our emotions. Reassure them. Distract as needed. Get them to purr as long as you are safe and not at risk of being hurt in anyway.

I can help you though this and answer your questions. It sometimes is a bit nuanced but I am happy to help.

Thank you so much for saving her life. We'll get them intro'd. Please ask anything anytime as I did not give a lot of info in this post.
 
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