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Thankyou for your kind words. Can you BELIEVE they wanted to arrest me for losing it at them?? I went off my head at the nerve of how they treated this.Violence around here WONT get solved if noone reports it and they DONT their actual JOB!
It's really horrible this happened to your daughter (and to you), I'm very sorry to hear about it. I have an independent 17-year old daughter and am always concerned about someone doing something like this. It's a very sad fact that young women are not safe by themselves when they are out, they just aren't. Too often they are viewed as prey, but there are things that can be done to help.
I hope they catch the guy, but you know there's always another jerk around the corner. Like everything else in life, we can't control what others do we can only control how we act. I don't blame your daughter one bit for not wanting to go back outside by herself right now. Hopefully, you can help her reverse that since she needs to restore her confidence again.
It's pretty incredible that anyone would blame you for letting your daughter go out by herself. That's our job as parents, to help our children become independent adults. But there are precautions she can take to help lower the odds of something like this happening again. It sounds like she already has very good instincts, and she was smart to follow them to avoid more harm.
Have your daughter avoid risky neighborhoods if at all possible. Even if she has to take a longer route, take the safer one. Tell her to never wear earbuds when walking by herself. We need all of our senses when we are out, not just to keep track of the people around us (and what they are doing), but also to hear and avoid cars and other dangers. Walk with a friend whenever possible, and avoid walking after dark. Don't walk through parks or alleys at night, especially when alone. Walk with confidence, even if you are not feeling that way. Your daughter might benefit from a self-defense class - just knowing how to act in a dangerous situation helps us feel safer.
If a class is impossible, maybe you could go on the internet together and look up the information. If I am being attacked, what should I do? What are the attacker's vulnerable parts? Should I make noise, fight, or run? What if I'm on foot and someone is following me in a car? Maybe you could practice some basic self-defense moves to help her get her confidence back (and help you feel better, too). Good luck!
I wish i could move out of this area, This IS the riskiest neighbourhood in this entire state! Ive tried telling her if shes going to have her music on to be more aware of her surroundings but shes never going to tear away from her music..its just not gonna happen but i DO think this has made her more aware so when she is out next time she will be more observant.Shouldnt have to be really but the sad reality is ESPECIALLY in this area, you just DO!
Shes on a bit of a Steven Seagal kick... movie wise at the moment and says she now wants to take up Aikido lol like him, it might NOT be such a bad thing and im going to do it with her.Something that will benefit us both and we can do it together
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