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They really are adorable. Like, seriously adorable!!They are adorable. I don't know if B will ever cuddle up with K and want to play with K. However I couldn't imagine what a change they would do with something so simple. It really is helpful to be consistent with playtime, especially the nighttime play before bed.
I now think that when my brother does come, I can get them to get along. I can get him to play with her and she'll warm up to him. I'm not worried about him freaking out at her being so active, I think it might still be somewhat of an issue but I think I can work it out.
I'm just so happy that I don't have to give up on K and that I didn't give up on her and won't. I mean if there is an issue where his or her safety is in jeopardy, I might, but I don't think I'll have too. And that is such a relieve.
You've been amazing. I can't thank you enough calicosrspecial, you've helped me so much and have given me so much hope and given my cats such a happier life and outlook, you're a gem.
Yes, it is tough to know if they will ever cuddle. Some do and some just don't. I always tend to just do my part and let the cats decide what they want. Some of my cats are and have been cat's cats while other are just human's cats. It just depends on their personality.
I do get a sense B will probably play with K at some point. In fact, in that picture it looks like they were with the toy. So it may just be limited to playing together with an item rather than chasing each other, etc.
"It really is helpful to be consistent with playtime, especially the nighttime play before bed." - Exactly. You are so right. Cats LOVE routines so keeping a routine is really important and if play is part of that even better.
"I now think that when my brother does come, I can get them to get along. I can get him to play with her and she'll warm up to him. I'm not worried about him freaking out at her being so active, I think it might still be somewhat of an issue but I think I can work it out." - I absolutely agree. I would start with him feeding her. Food is the best way to a cat's heart and it makes a positive association and builds trust. I would also educate him on how human emotions impact a cat. So staying calm and confident and trusting around a cat. Also, not standing over a cat, not staring, not reaching out to initiate contact (let the cat initiate contact), so not to force attention, don't corner a cat.. Giving eye kisses (slowly closing his eyes, holding them closed for a few seconds and then slowly opening them). Showing a cat you trust them by closing your eyes is a big sign of trust. Then once there is some trust then he could start trying to play with her. Since play can lead to some "different" movements we would want a little level of trust to be there before they start playing. But you should continue playing with her to keep her confidence high.
Cats typically will not just attack someone. Usually there is a good reason if they do. I deal with feral cats all the time so I have dealt with scared, injured, normal ferals. The whole spectrum. So I have learned that how I interact with them really determines how they respond to me. I pretty much could guarantee I could walk into your home and spend a day and K would not attack me. So learning how to interact with a cat is really important.
I am really not worried. When your brother comes I will help you all through it and we'll make it work. Change can be a little disruptive to cats but with the right confidence building (Play, Food, Height and Love) and the right human actions I don't see any reason why it will not work out. And I will be with you through it to make sure all is well.
You are very welcome. But YOU are the reason things are better. That is why I am so confident that all will be well in the future. If there is a little blip, there is no doubt it can be handled.
I am here for you always. Keep up the great work!! GREAT job!!!