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Hi. I am new to this forum & I typically dont post threads, but I'm at the end of my rope. I welcome all suggestions & advice.
I have 2 cats. A supervisor at my job mentioned a couple of months ago that she was looking for a home for her cat. When I asked her about it, she said the cat was 6 years old. She had recently gotten a puppy & now the cat was peeing where it shouldnt. Well, duh. She didnt think introducing a puppy to her 6 year old cat might upset it? Then she stated that she was going to have to take the cat to the shelter. Are you kidding me? Instead of getting rid of the new puppy, who would be much less traumatized, she was going to get rid of the cat she'd had for 6 years? That is a great lesson for her to teach her children. She said the cat was afraid of people & hid whenever anyone came over. I told her that i believed the cat would get put down, as people dont usually adopt 6 year old anti social cats. She didnt seem to care about this. So I told her that I would take the cat. It's not the cats fault. Its hers. Why would it be ok or fair to the cat to put it down? I was mortified & my respect for this person went out the window. I put the cat in my room, by itself, with food & water & some toys. For a week, it was like there was no cat in there. She would not come out from under my bed. But I sat in there a couple of times a day & talked to her or just read something out loud, so she would get used to my voice. I cannot imagine how stressed this cat was, being taken from the only home it had ever known after 6 years & just left in a strange place with complete strangers.
After a week, she began to be present in the room, when I went in. I have shelves up on the walls of my bedroom, for my cats to get up on & lay down. She would be up on one of those just watching my every move. If I got close to her, she would let out a low growl. A few days later, I went in the bedroom & sat down on the floor. She came out from under the bed & slowly walked up to me & let me pet her. Now, we are good friends. She greets me with a meow & comes right up to me or jumps up on the bed if I sit on it. When I scratch her head, she drools. She is really a sweetheart, just very scared. I believe that the children of her previous owner were mean to her. And someone might have kicked her, because if I try to step over her, she freaks out & hisses. Anyhow, it is now almost 2 months after I got her. I have been sleeping on my living room floor, because my other 2 cats are used to sleeping with me in my room & now that the new cat is in there, they cant. I dont want them to feel abandoned, especially since my 14 year old cat, the love of my life, has cancer & the vet said treatment would run upwards of $8000. Which I would spend in a second if I had it, but I dont. So, Im trying to spend lots of time with him & I have to let him sleep near me. So, I began taking my 2 year old cat into the bedroom, in a cat stroller, so the new cat & him could smell each other & get to know one another. There was a lot of growling on the new cats part. My 2 year old, just sat in the stroller & looked at her. He appeared non interested. But, last week, when i opened the bedroom door, he bolted in there & ran right at the new cat. It was almost disastrous. I got him out of there, but damage was done. For 2 days, I did not see the new cat. When she finally came out from under the bed & let me pet her, I noticed a red hole on her hip. I think my cat grabbed at her & got a claw in. I have been putting neosporin on it & today it looks good. I dont think its infected. I hope to God it heals, because I am already paying the vet for my older cat & I am broke. Now, I dont know what to do. I am tired of sleeping on the floor, but I have a feeling that if I were to let her out, there would be blood. I cant live like this much longer. If only she could understand, that there is a big house for her to explore. 3 stories. And lots of toys to play with. She cant spend her life in my bedroom & I need my room back. What do I do? How can I integrate her into my other cats space? I cant give her back to my co-worker. She would just take her to the shelter. And the poor cat does not deserve that. She hasnt done anything wrong. I dont know if my 2 year old just wanted to rambunctiously play or if he was attacking her with malice, but it was bad. I am completely at a loss as to what to do. Any & all advice will be welcome. Thank you.
I have 2 cats. A supervisor at my job mentioned a couple of months ago that she was looking for a home for her cat. When I asked her about it, she said the cat was 6 years old. She had recently gotten a puppy & now the cat was peeing where it shouldnt. Well, duh. She didnt think introducing a puppy to her 6 year old cat might upset it? Then she stated that she was going to have to take the cat to the shelter. Are you kidding me? Instead of getting rid of the new puppy, who would be much less traumatized, she was going to get rid of the cat she'd had for 6 years? That is a great lesson for her to teach her children. She said the cat was afraid of people & hid whenever anyone came over. I told her that i believed the cat would get put down, as people dont usually adopt 6 year old anti social cats. She didnt seem to care about this. So I told her that I would take the cat. It's not the cats fault. Its hers. Why would it be ok or fair to the cat to put it down? I was mortified & my respect for this person went out the window. I put the cat in my room, by itself, with food & water & some toys. For a week, it was like there was no cat in there. She would not come out from under my bed. But I sat in there a couple of times a day & talked to her or just read something out loud, so she would get used to my voice. I cannot imagine how stressed this cat was, being taken from the only home it had ever known after 6 years & just left in a strange place with complete strangers.
After a week, she began to be present in the room, when I went in. I have shelves up on the walls of my bedroom, for my cats to get up on & lay down. She would be up on one of those just watching my every move. If I got close to her, she would let out a low growl. A few days later, I went in the bedroom & sat down on the floor. She came out from under the bed & slowly walked up to me & let me pet her. Now, we are good friends. She greets me with a meow & comes right up to me or jumps up on the bed if I sit on it. When I scratch her head, she drools. She is really a sweetheart, just very scared. I believe that the children of her previous owner were mean to her. And someone might have kicked her, because if I try to step over her, she freaks out & hisses. Anyhow, it is now almost 2 months after I got her. I have been sleeping on my living room floor, because my other 2 cats are used to sleeping with me in my room & now that the new cat is in there, they cant. I dont want them to feel abandoned, especially since my 14 year old cat, the love of my life, has cancer & the vet said treatment would run upwards of $8000. Which I would spend in a second if I had it, but I dont. So, Im trying to spend lots of time with him & I have to let him sleep near me. So, I began taking my 2 year old cat into the bedroom, in a cat stroller, so the new cat & him could smell each other & get to know one another. There was a lot of growling on the new cats part. My 2 year old, just sat in the stroller & looked at her. He appeared non interested. But, last week, when i opened the bedroom door, he bolted in there & ran right at the new cat. It was almost disastrous. I got him out of there, but damage was done. For 2 days, I did not see the new cat. When she finally came out from under the bed & let me pet her, I noticed a red hole on her hip. I think my cat grabbed at her & got a claw in. I have been putting neosporin on it & today it looks good. I dont think its infected. I hope to God it heals, because I am already paying the vet for my older cat & I am broke. Now, I dont know what to do. I am tired of sleeping on the floor, but I have a feeling that if I were to let her out, there would be blood. I cant live like this much longer. If only she could understand, that there is a big house for her to explore. 3 stories. And lots of toys to play with. She cant spend her life in my bedroom & I need my room back. What do I do? How can I integrate her into my other cats space? I cant give her back to my co-worker. She would just take her to the shelter. And the poor cat does not deserve that. She hasnt done anything wrong. I dont know if my 2 year old just wanted to rambunctiously play or if he was attacking her with malice, but it was bad. I am completely at a loss as to what to do. Any & all advice will be welcome. Thank you.