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Hey there,
This might end up being a long post, but I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong and looking for some advice to giving all the background!
I recently adopted a semi feral (1 year feral, 2 years shelter\previous adoption attempt) cat from a local shelter. I've had him for almost 2 months now. It was a slow start, lots of hiding, not eating\drinking, very very shy guy but we had been making slow but sure progress. In his room in the basement with all his toys, bed, litter, food\water, and some play spots we went from timid and scared to coming out to greet me whenever I went downstairs and always coming out for pets and brushing (unless someone else was there haha). The he started to come upstairs a bit more and get more and more confident. Coming up to me to say hi and allllmost letting me walk around like normal without him running for the hills! He was scared of all the rooms upstairs but recently had been doing sooo much better. He was starting to come to me upstairs more and even came up to me on the couch and kinda snuggled for a bit!! Well...that lasted for a like a day and not he's seemed to regress a bit. I'm not sure what's going on and I'm getting a little frustrated :\.
In his room he still like to play and get pet but he's a bit more shy again, sometimes he's look at me and sulk away to hide. He still eats\drink\litters perfectly fine. Upstairs he's almost back to the beginning, he will come up and explore and might look at me from a distance but if I move around even a bit he freezes and will bolt back to the next "out of line of sight" area. He has started hiding under my bed at times as well, which is new. He has also started to meow a lot, whenever I come downstairs he'll meow...it started as just one or two when I come in to room but now he will consistently meow for a little bit (he has food, fresh water, and a clean box). Whenever he comes upstairs for the first little bit he'll meow. I didn't hear a peep out of him the first month and half and now he's meowing downstairs, coming upstairs, or when he's "hiding" from me upstairs when I walk around. I thought it was attention at first but I would literally play with him for 30 minutes, walk upstairs, and 1 minute later he would be up here meowing!
He has also been itchy his ears and shaking his head a bit more the past week, I tried to check his ears for anything but he's fluffy and doesn't like it so I couldn't get a good look and all it did was make him mad at me for awhile.
I'm not sure what to do, this is my first cat that I have owned and I've never experienced shy ones before. Am I just overreacted and this is pretty normal? Is the meowing and itchy something maybe he's trying to tell me he isn't feeling well or something? I'm nervous about taking him to the vet if that's just going to make him more upset. I wasn't planning on getting a shy cat but we did really connect but I'm just getting frustrated after we were getting so far and now he's...just not making sense. I've read that sometimes shy cats can take a year to get used to a new home and person after adoption but we were doing so well...is this just part of the process?
This might end up being a long post, but I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong and looking for some advice to giving all the background!
I recently adopted a semi feral (1 year feral, 2 years shelter\previous adoption attempt) cat from a local shelter. I've had him for almost 2 months now. It was a slow start, lots of hiding, not eating\drinking, very very shy guy but we had been making slow but sure progress. In his room in the basement with all his toys, bed, litter, food\water, and some play spots we went from timid and scared to coming out to greet me whenever I went downstairs and always coming out for pets and brushing (unless someone else was there haha). The he started to come upstairs a bit more and get more and more confident. Coming up to me to say hi and allllmost letting me walk around like normal without him running for the hills! He was scared of all the rooms upstairs but recently had been doing sooo much better. He was starting to come to me upstairs more and even came up to me on the couch and kinda snuggled for a bit!! Well...that lasted for a like a day and not he's seemed to regress a bit. I'm not sure what's going on and I'm getting a little frustrated :\.
In his room he still like to play and get pet but he's a bit more shy again, sometimes he's look at me and sulk away to hide. He still eats\drink\litters perfectly fine. Upstairs he's almost back to the beginning, he will come up and explore and might look at me from a distance but if I move around even a bit he freezes and will bolt back to the next "out of line of sight" area. He has started hiding under my bed at times as well, which is new. He has also started to meow a lot, whenever I come downstairs he'll meow...it started as just one or two when I come in to room but now he will consistently meow for a little bit (he has food, fresh water, and a clean box). Whenever he comes upstairs for the first little bit he'll meow. I didn't hear a peep out of him the first month and half and now he's meowing downstairs, coming upstairs, or when he's "hiding" from me upstairs when I walk around. I thought it was attention at first but I would literally play with him for 30 minutes, walk upstairs, and 1 minute later he would be up here meowing!
He has also been itchy his ears and shaking his head a bit more the past week, I tried to check his ears for anything but he's fluffy and doesn't like it so I couldn't get a good look and all it did was make him mad at me for awhile.
I'm not sure what to do, this is my first cat that I have owned and I've never experienced shy ones before. Am I just overreacted and this is pretty normal? Is the meowing and itchy something maybe he's trying to tell me he isn't feeling well or something? I'm nervous about taking him to the vet if that's just going to make him more upset. I wasn't planning on getting a shy cat but we did really connect but I'm just getting frustrated after we were getting so far and now he's...just not making sense. I've read that sometimes shy cats can take a year to get used to a new home and person after adoption but we were doing so well...is this just part of the process?