If you take him to the shelter please do not label him as "semi-feral" because he isn't. I have a little one I got as a total feral with zero positive human contact up until 4 months old. I know which feral colony she is from, I know its history and I know the so-call caretaker so I really know she was 100% feral. There is a huge difference between a semi-feral or former feral cat and what you are describing with Charlie. Labeling him as any sort of feral will likely make him unadoptable; I know my local no-kill will not take any cat whose owner even mentions feral at intake. Based on my experience semi-ferals or ferals don't attack people to play with them; they attack if you invade their safe zone and have no escape. They don't bite or scratch randomly; you will only see them randomly and they will run if given the choice instead of attacking. They don't bite someone who stops them from climbing; they wouldn't be climbing where someone could see them in the first place. Semi-ferals and ferals are cautious, quiet, hidden, scared and only loud or lash out if they are pushed or cornered. They don't seek out contact from any human unless that human is trusted and even that seeking will be cautious with them rarely doing more but asking for food or rubbing to claim before scurrying off. Charlie is not a feral or semi feral.
What you are describing is a smart cat who missed out on Cat 101 lessons with Mom and didn't get behavior training young to teach him what he was missing. Him wanting to cuddle is not something you can correct but his scratching, biting and lashing out are all correctable traits. With training, time and discipline plus some routine and dedication he can be taught to behave better. Due to his age and the time he has had with your family it will be very difficult so I completely understand given the situation if you do decide to rehome him. He sounds very much like a very smart, bored and hyper teenager (human or cat, lol) and given what you are looking for might not be the right cat for your home. He isn't trying to hurt anyone really. He doesn't realize that claws hurt you, that biting hurts you, he just knows he gets attention when he does. He didn't realize climbing the curtain was bad; it was fun and your Mom stopped him. He lashed out at her for stopping his fun. Yelling at cats doesn't work. Punishment doesn't work. Tapping or physical punishment doesn't work. Most techniques people know about and react with for dogs don't work with cats. They have short memories, get bored and know what works. Cats don't see much difference between good attention and bad attention; I really think they don't understand emotion sometimes. Positive training, guidance, redirection, consistency, reward, routine, working with their instincts; these tools all work with cats.
It is not a failing on your part what is happening. It is a learning experience that a settled adult cat from a foster environment would likely be a better fit for you. A cat that comes with a known background and established character traits. Maybe even a senior cat would better fit what you need in your life. Medication may help in the short term with Charlie to mellow him out and break habits if you want to retrain him. But honestly, if there is nothing medically wrong, medication may just mask him for a while. You could use them long term if you really think that is the problem but I would try behavior modification training first before going with medications. He really sounds like he needs a complete evaluation, routine, and consistency to get him to a stable place.
I say all this with a very hyperactive smart Snowshoe Siamese in my home; my boy will take every advantage if given the chance (in addition to the aforementioned former feral who will revert to feral tendencies with strangers around). I have to keep a steady routine and firm boundaries or my cat will walk all over the home. I have very firm guidelines and routines with visitors because my boy will bite strangers if they don't stay within them not because he is bad but because he wants attention and it gets attention. It can be tedious sometimes but the reward for my discipline with him is that he is a giant lovey and protecting cat who would do anything for our family and our other two cats. He just can be a stubborn brat at times and he is not a cuddler.
But please, my whole point is, if you decide to go the route of rehoming Charlie do not even utter that you think he is still feral or semi-feral as someone else advised earlier. It will lead to much heartache for him and mislead his placement.
What you are describing is a smart cat who missed out on Cat 101 lessons with Mom and didn't get behavior training young to teach him what he was missing. Him wanting to cuddle is not something you can correct but his scratching, biting and lashing out are all correctable traits. With training, time and discipline plus some routine and dedication he can be taught to behave better. Due to his age and the time he has had with your family it will be very difficult so I completely understand given the situation if you do decide to rehome him. He sounds very much like a very smart, bored and hyper teenager (human or cat, lol) and given what you are looking for might not be the right cat for your home. He isn't trying to hurt anyone really. He doesn't realize that claws hurt you, that biting hurts you, he just knows he gets attention when he does. He didn't realize climbing the curtain was bad; it was fun and your Mom stopped him. He lashed out at her for stopping his fun. Yelling at cats doesn't work. Punishment doesn't work. Tapping or physical punishment doesn't work. Most techniques people know about and react with for dogs don't work with cats. They have short memories, get bored and know what works. Cats don't see much difference between good attention and bad attention; I really think they don't understand emotion sometimes. Positive training, guidance, redirection, consistency, reward, routine, working with their instincts; these tools all work with cats.
It is not a failing on your part what is happening. It is a learning experience that a settled adult cat from a foster environment would likely be a better fit for you. A cat that comes with a known background and established character traits. Maybe even a senior cat would better fit what you need in your life. Medication may help in the short term with Charlie to mellow him out and break habits if you want to retrain him. But honestly, if there is nothing medically wrong, medication may just mask him for a while. You could use them long term if you really think that is the problem but I would try behavior modification training first before going with medications. He really sounds like he needs a complete evaluation, routine, and consistency to get him to a stable place.
I say all this with a very hyperactive smart Snowshoe Siamese in my home; my boy will take every advantage if given the chance (in addition to the aforementioned former feral who will revert to feral tendencies with strangers around). I have to keep a steady routine and firm boundaries or my cat will walk all over the home. I have very firm guidelines and routines with visitors because my boy will bite strangers if they don't stay within them not because he is bad but because he wants attention and it gets attention. It can be tedious sometimes but the reward for my discipline with him is that he is a giant lovey and protecting cat who would do anything for our family and our other two cats. He just can be a stubborn brat at times and he is not a cuddler.
But please, my whole point is, if you decide to go the route of rehoming Charlie do not even utter that you think he is still feral or semi-feral as someone else advised earlier. It will lead to much heartache for him and mislead his placement.
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