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I just wanted to come on here and vent a little bit about an experience I had today. I’ve had my cat Toby for over a year now, and he’s probably been the most fulfilling experience of my life to date. He’s a total sweetheart and my best friend. I decided recently that I’d like to adopt a friend for him.
The past few weeks searching for a cat have been draining to say the least. Because of the holiday season, I usually can’t get to my local adoption centres quickly enough to see the new cats before they fly out the door. At first I was pleased to hear they were finding their homes so fast, but then I learned that a lot of these holiday adoptions are impulsive. I heard that in January the adoption centres tend to fill up with surrendered cats. This was really hard for me to process.
I’ve also been looking for cats on Kijiji who need to be rehomed, but it’s almost impossible to sift through all the breeders selling cats for $3000. This was also a hurtful and draining experience.
Today I visited a cat cafe. Overall, it didn’t seem like an optimal environment for the cats and a lot of them seemed overwhelmed and overstimulated. I reached out to pet one, and she clawed at me and made a warning hiss. I felt put off by this behaviour, and then I immediately felt guilty because this is a common cat behaviour and it’s not her fault if she feels the need to defend herself.
I’ve been in tears ever since the visit. I feel bad for not being more sympathetic to the overwhelmed cats and their defensive behaviours. I feel like I’m not a true cat lover if I can’t appreciate them for all of their various temperaments. I think I might just be drained from the search for a new fur baby. I’m going to step back, and wait until January when there are surrendered cats who need their forever home.
I apologize for the long post and I’m sorry if this isn’t the purpose of this forum. I just needed to vent a little bit.
The past few weeks searching for a cat have been draining to say the least. Because of the holiday season, I usually can’t get to my local adoption centres quickly enough to see the new cats before they fly out the door. At first I was pleased to hear they were finding their homes so fast, but then I learned that a lot of these holiday adoptions are impulsive. I heard that in January the adoption centres tend to fill up with surrendered cats. This was really hard for me to process.
I’ve also been looking for cats on Kijiji who need to be rehomed, but it’s almost impossible to sift through all the breeders selling cats for $3000. This was also a hurtful and draining experience.
Today I visited a cat cafe. Overall, it didn’t seem like an optimal environment for the cats and a lot of them seemed overwhelmed and overstimulated. I reached out to pet one, and she clawed at me and made a warning hiss. I felt put off by this behaviour, and then I immediately felt guilty because this is a common cat behaviour and it’s not her fault if she feels the need to defend herself.
I’ve been in tears ever since the visit. I feel bad for not being more sympathetic to the overwhelmed cats and their defensive behaviours. I feel like I’m not a true cat lover if I can’t appreciate them for all of their various temperaments. I think I might just be drained from the search for a new fur baby. I’m going to step back, and wait until January when there are surrendered cats who need their forever home.
I apologize for the long post and I’m sorry if this isn’t the purpose of this forum. I just needed to vent a little bit.