I guess I really just need support and an ear to listen to me. I spent most of my night crying. I have to give my boyfriend credit… I am not a crier and this is the first time he had to deal with this sort of thing and he did so great and was so supportive.
I am very lucky and have great parents. A long while back they got separated, my father bought a house and gave my mother our house. After 7 years they got back together but still lived separately (but slept together every night at my moms house) anyway long story short, they got back together and after another 6 years of being back together they have decided to move in together and be so generous as to give my sister and I my Mothers house just to get us on our feet.
Anyway, that’s not what I am complaining about lol. That’s just a background. My sister is very spoiled and loud, she usually (even now at 35 years) has tantrums when things don’t go her way and she can get very verbally aggressive. I on the other hand am quiet and respect that I need to live my own life without my parents help, I have a lot of pride and never ask for anything. We both grew up very differently.
So, about the house, first off, I was never given the opportunity to own this house, my sister must have demanded it so it was automatically hers and she would pay me half the price (Keep in mind this is a rare house to get, middle of everything in Toronto, big lot, very hard find, newly renovated). So being that she needs to pay me I was under the impression that the house would be half mine until she paid up… Well obviously not. (She will pay me in 1-2 years after she is done her schooling, she went back to school for her university degree)
I love books, I have a huge collection at home that includes rare book, signed books, banned books, books with printed out correspondence with the authors in the pages. It’s the only thing I really ever collected and took care of. My boyfriend knows how much I love books so he has been ordering me some of the rare books I want and it got me thinking I want my collection back.
I called my mom last night to tell her when she comes to visit me on Thursday to please bring the books and she told me she threw it out… she threw it out?? What?? My book collection that’s probably worth $1000? Are you for real? Why? She said my sister wanted a clean house to move into since it would be her house now and she’s moving in at the end of the month… I asked what else they threw out… and let me tell you… it was a lot… I moved 18 hours away and all I packed was what I could fit in my car… they threw out my whole childhood and my cherished book collection.
Of course I kept asking why, my mom got upset and put my dad on the phone. He started making fun of me, and mocking that I was upset so I hung up. My mom called me back and I heard my sister in the background calling me selfish, and it was my fault for not bringing it etc. I also heard my dad yelling how rude I was for hanging up.
My mom started crying saying my sister wanted a clean house, but no one helped her (they made my mom do everything) so she felt rushed and threw everything away. Then I got mad and said something along the lines of “Wow, must be nice to be her, get a brand new house for half price and a maid to go with it”
Now no one is talking to me.
I feel so sad. I feel like its so unfair that I lost all my childhood items, along with my book collection that I spent so much time and money on… and I also feel bad because I made my mother cry… but its not my fault… I’m just so lost, I just feel like crying. I feel like I should apologize…but for what? For being upset they threw out my stuff…
Anyway now I’m depressed because I made you guys read all of this. Haha sorry about that, I guess I just needed to vent. And if you are still reading this. Thanks =) that’s seriously nice of you.
I am very lucky and have great parents. A long while back they got separated, my father bought a house and gave my mother our house. After 7 years they got back together but still lived separately (but slept together every night at my moms house) anyway long story short, they got back together and after another 6 years of being back together they have decided to move in together and be so generous as to give my sister and I my Mothers house just to get us on our feet.
Anyway, that’s not what I am complaining about lol. That’s just a background. My sister is very spoiled and loud, she usually (even now at 35 years) has tantrums when things don’t go her way and she can get very verbally aggressive. I on the other hand am quiet and respect that I need to live my own life without my parents help, I have a lot of pride and never ask for anything. We both grew up very differently.
So, about the house, first off, I was never given the opportunity to own this house, my sister must have demanded it so it was automatically hers and she would pay me half the price (Keep in mind this is a rare house to get, middle of everything in Toronto, big lot, very hard find, newly renovated). So being that she needs to pay me I was under the impression that the house would be half mine until she paid up… Well obviously not. (She will pay me in 1-2 years after she is done her schooling, she went back to school for her university degree)
I love books, I have a huge collection at home that includes rare book, signed books, banned books, books with printed out correspondence with the authors in the pages. It’s the only thing I really ever collected and took care of. My boyfriend knows how much I love books so he has been ordering me some of the rare books I want and it got me thinking I want my collection back.
I called my mom last night to tell her when she comes to visit me on Thursday to please bring the books and she told me she threw it out… she threw it out?? What?? My book collection that’s probably worth $1000? Are you for real? Why? She said my sister wanted a clean house to move into since it would be her house now and she’s moving in at the end of the month… I asked what else they threw out… and let me tell you… it was a lot… I moved 18 hours away and all I packed was what I could fit in my car… they threw out my whole childhood and my cherished book collection.
Of course I kept asking why, my mom got upset and put my dad on the phone. He started making fun of me, and mocking that I was upset so I hung up. My mom called me back and I heard my sister in the background calling me selfish, and it was my fault for not bringing it etc. I also heard my dad yelling how rude I was for hanging up.
My mom started crying saying my sister wanted a clean house, but no one helped her (they made my mom do everything) so she felt rushed and threw everything away. Then I got mad and said something along the lines of “Wow, must be nice to be her, get a brand new house for half price and a maid to go with it”
Now no one is talking to me.
I feel so sad. I feel like its so unfair that I lost all my childhood items, along with my book collection that I spent so much time and money on… and I also feel bad because I made my mother cry… but its not my fault… I’m just so lost, I just feel like crying. I feel like I should apologize…but for what? For being upset they threw out my stuff…
Anyway now I’m depressed because I made you guys read all of this. Haha sorry about that, I guess I just needed to vent. And if you are still reading this. Thanks =) that’s seriously nice of you.