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Hi everyone,
I am brand new to posting on the forums, but I have been reading posts for some time.(usually to get insight into the weird things my Shadow does)
I had a bit of a problem tonight and needed to voice my frustration, and hurt feelings.
My father, who lives with me, said something incredibly hurtful tonight about my cat, Shadow.
Some backstory:
Over the last few months I have been making a lot of changes in the household. My cat seems to be allergic to something and I am working with the vet to narrow down the cause. I have changed her food, her water bowl, some of the cleaning products for the house and her litter. Recently, I found out she's been licking a lot on her backside and the bottom of her legs, which has caused some redness and irritation. Back to the vet next week.
My father pointed out the irritation to me tonight and I told him I knew about it and I was taking her back in.
He said to me "maybe you should have her put down."
I was absolutely floored. I ended up telling him that what he said is by far the cruelest thing he has ever said to me, and that I wasn't talking to him the rest of the night.
Before he went to bed he apologized for hurting my feelings. I told him that she's got a skin condition, it's not like she's suffering a lingering death.
I just don't understand. He saw what kind of mess I was after my last cat died. I couldn't function for a week. What makes him think that Shadow is any less important to me. I raised her from a kitten. I was keeping her, her mother and siblings in my laundry room over winter when they were still too young to wean. I held her when she was just weeks old.
How could I do anything less than everything in my power, to keep her healthy and happy.
He's never been a great lover of cats, but he knows how happy that furry little idiot makes me.
I just don't know how to feel about this. I never did accept his apology. And I'm here at damn near 4am, unable to sleep because I'm still upset.
If anyone can offer up some insight, it would be great.
I included a picture of Shadow in the bathtub. It's one of her favorite spots.
I am brand new to posting on the forums, but I have been reading posts for some time.(usually to get insight into the weird things my Shadow does)
I had a bit of a problem tonight and needed to voice my frustration, and hurt feelings.
My father, who lives with me, said something incredibly hurtful tonight about my cat, Shadow.
Some backstory:
Over the last few months I have been making a lot of changes in the household. My cat seems to be allergic to something and I am working with the vet to narrow down the cause. I have changed her food, her water bowl, some of the cleaning products for the house and her litter. Recently, I found out she's been licking a lot on her backside and the bottom of her legs, which has caused some redness and irritation. Back to the vet next week.
My father pointed out the irritation to me tonight and I told him I knew about it and I was taking her back in.
He said to me "maybe you should have her put down."
I was absolutely floored. I ended up telling him that what he said is by far the cruelest thing he has ever said to me, and that I wasn't talking to him the rest of the night.
Before he went to bed he apologized for hurting my feelings. I told him that she's got a skin condition, it's not like she's suffering a lingering death.
I just don't understand. He saw what kind of mess I was after my last cat died. I couldn't function for a week. What makes him think that Shadow is any less important to me. I raised her from a kitten. I was keeping her, her mother and siblings in my laundry room over winter when they were still too young to wean. I held her when she was just weeks old.
How could I do anything less than everything in my power, to keep her healthy and happy.
He's never been a great lover of cats, but he knows how happy that furry little idiot makes me.
I just don't know how to feel about this. I never did accept his apology. And I'm here at damn near 4am, unable to sleep because I'm still upset.
If anyone can offer up some insight, it would be great.
I included a picture of Shadow in the bathtub. It's one of her favorite spots.