In part because of Freya's separation anxiety (also because we just wanted a second cat), we decided to try getting a new cat with the hope that the new cat would be a potential friend/playmate or at least some grudging entertainment.
We made sure to get a cat that was a year or two younger (Freya turned 3 earlier this month) and had a known calm disposition and fairly submissive personality, so as to hopefully not trigger Freya.
We did a scent exchange a week before getting the new cat (who we're thinking of naming Kira but haven't finalized it yet) with a couple of washcloths and both cats seemed to respond well.
"Kira" has a dedicated room (our guestroom) and is limited to there for now (though she adapted well enough that we'd be letting her explore the rest of the house already, were it just her.
Two and a half days in, and I am a bit discouraged. My reasons for potential optimism to the contrary, I was aware that it might take weeks. I was prepared for that. I wasn't so prepared for Freya's behavioral changes.
i figured a bit of standoffish behavior from her for a few days, sure, and maybe some angry glares at the door for a while but I've been pretty concerned by by her growling and hissing at me. She'd was always fairly easy to pick up and handle (even back when she was a kitten and had behavioral issues.)
Sometimes, like now, she's mostly herself, albeit pretty standoffish, but if she gets a strong whif or sound from "Kira", she gets very uspet, beign unabel to be handled, often "guarding" outside the door, and even growling or hissing at me if I get close, and also being really weird about eating (she actually made the weird wo-lo-low sound she made as a few times as a tiny kitten when eating once, even. ) She's also fairly reluctant to leave my room (normally she follows me from room to room, or will just sun herself in the living room.)
And her #1 trigger is if she smells the other cat on me. That one leaves me guilty no matter what. I either trigger Freya and feel like I'm harming her, or else I don't spend enough time with "Kira" and feel like I'm not being a good new caretaker for her!
So I'm feeling stressed, awful, frustrated, guilty, and unsure what to do. At the moment my only plans are to try getting a couple of Feliway multicat difusers (feliway never helped much as a single cat, but maybe the multi cat will work to dull her resposne to the other cat's smell), and to try showering after handling "Kira" so that Freya doesn't smell her on me (or at least not strongly.)
Anyhow, for any one who endured my venting, here's a picture of "Kira" cuddling my leg
And of Freya cuddling my leg sweetly just a few days ago (it seems a different age)
We made sure to get a cat that was a year or two younger (Freya turned 3 earlier this month) and had a known calm disposition and fairly submissive personality, so as to hopefully not trigger Freya.
We did a scent exchange a week before getting the new cat (who we're thinking of naming Kira but haven't finalized it yet) with a couple of washcloths and both cats seemed to respond well.
"Kira" has a dedicated room (our guestroom) and is limited to there for now (though she adapted well enough that we'd be letting her explore the rest of the house already, were it just her.
Two and a half days in, and I am a bit discouraged. My reasons for potential optimism to the contrary, I was aware that it might take weeks. I was prepared for that. I wasn't so prepared for Freya's behavioral changes.
i figured a bit of standoffish behavior from her for a few days, sure, and maybe some angry glares at the door for a while but I've been pretty concerned by by her growling and hissing at me. She'd was always fairly easy to pick up and handle (even back when she was a kitten and had behavioral issues.)
Sometimes, like now, she's mostly herself, albeit pretty standoffish, but if she gets a strong whif or sound from "Kira", she gets very uspet, beign unabel to be handled, often "guarding" outside the door, and even growling or hissing at me if I get close, and also being really weird about eating (she actually made the weird wo-lo-low sound she made as a few times as a tiny kitten when eating once, even. ) She's also fairly reluctant to leave my room (normally she follows me from room to room, or will just sun herself in the living room.)
And her #1 trigger is if she smells the other cat on me. That one leaves me guilty no matter what. I either trigger Freya and feel like I'm harming her, or else I don't spend enough time with "Kira" and feel like I'm not being a good new caretaker for her!
So I'm feeling stressed, awful, frustrated, guilty, and unsure what to do. At the moment my only plans are to try getting a couple of Feliway multicat difusers (feliway never helped much as a single cat, but maybe the multi cat will work to dull her resposne to the other cat's smell), and to try showering after handling "Kira" so that Freya doesn't smell her on me (or at least not strongly.)
Anyhow, for any one who endured my venting, here's a picture of "Kira" cuddling my leg
And of Freya cuddling my leg sweetly just a few days ago (it seems a different age)