So sorry to hear about your precious babies! What part of Taffy's bowel is obstructed? If you decide on surgery, make sure it's someone competent, experienced, who will provide excellent 24-hour care afterwards, including fluids and nutrition. A massive hairball and a tumor are difficult to differentiate without surgery. Both can cause the same problems.
As to the FIP, one of our cats showed up as positive after a blood test. Totally freaked us out, but it turned out to be a false positive. There are many things that can cause a bloated belly, like others have said. I totally agree with the quality of life aspect, and giving both your babies lots of love. It's ok to cry, scream, whatever you need to do!!!! Vets and their staff totally understand your feelings and most likely share them!
One more thing: talk to people who care, and maybe check on vets that can come to your home if need be. There are compassionate vets who will help you do the right thing at the right time, in your home rather than the whole carrier thing and cold office.
As to the FIP, one of our cats showed up as positive after a blood test. Totally freaked us out, but it turned out to be a false positive. There are many things that can cause a bloated belly, like others have said. I totally agree with the quality of life aspect, and giving both your babies lots of love. It's ok to cry, scream, whatever you need to do!!!! Vets and their staff totally understand your feelings and most likely share them!
One more thing: talk to people who care, and maybe check on vets that can come to your home if need be. There are compassionate vets who will help you do the right thing at the right time, in your home rather than the whole carrier thing and cold office.