it's his place so i can't tell him to take a hike, my cat is going through middening stages right now with stress (hes pooped a total of 4 times on the rug and sofa) and he doesn't understand, his mind is set in stone that he wants to sell it, i have no say in the matter even when i've exhausted all reasons, i love my boy and i don't want him to go and i am too attached to him, i've had him since he was a kitten, he's 2 and a half now.
i've said i would make compromise and try to contain him in the hallway till his toilet habits get better and keep an eye out but he says that is not enough, the reason why my cat bastin is going through middening right now is because we argue in front of him and it obviously causes stress, it's also mainly my boyfriend who screams at him, i tell him to stop doing it and i've warned him so many times not to scream at the cat because he will get stressed but he doesn't care and does it anyway, now look where we are and because of this he is getting rid of it? it doesn't seem fair at all, he is mainly the cause for this.
i said to him what if we had kids and they wet the bed or pooped themselves would you get rid of them too? he said no but i know he would never be able to handle it, if he can't take on the problems of this cat, how can he cope with a child?
my mum is on his side too but no surprise there because she hates animals (even when i was a kid she hated animals) and has always said to get rid of him for a long time now, no one is on my side so i can't fight back, i am posting on here for some advice on what to do now.
there are many reasons why he would never be suitable with someone else, he is only used to me he hisses any anyone else, he's a indoor cat only, if the new owner does not know this and sends him outside the cat would harm himself outside or even worse get run over, i don't want that, my cat only likes dry food, the new owner may not even buy that for him and might buy him cheaper horrible brands that may do him more harm than good, i know that is nitpicking but i know what is best for my cat, some guy that my boyfriend will sell him to will have no idea how to look after him.
so that gets my anxiety up even more, i've been admitted to hospital for panic attacks and fainted (i'm serious) but my boyfriend doesn't seem to care at all and even told me at the hospital that he is still getting rid of him, he can be really nasty sometimes.
so what are my options right now? (if any, i've given up all hope) he's so eager to sell that cat he's going out every day to get rid of it, once something is set in stone he never stops.
i've said i would make compromise and try to contain him in the hallway till his toilet habits get better and keep an eye out but he says that is not enough, the reason why my cat bastin is going through middening right now is because we argue in front of him and it obviously causes stress, it's also mainly my boyfriend who screams at him, i tell him to stop doing it and i've warned him so many times not to scream at the cat because he will get stressed but he doesn't care and does it anyway, now look where we are and because of this he is getting rid of it? it doesn't seem fair at all, he is mainly the cause for this.
i said to him what if we had kids and they wet the bed or pooped themselves would you get rid of them too? he said no but i know he would never be able to handle it, if he can't take on the problems of this cat, how can he cope with a child?
my mum is on his side too but no surprise there because she hates animals (even when i was a kid she hated animals) and has always said to get rid of him for a long time now, no one is on my side so i can't fight back, i am posting on here for some advice on what to do now.
there are many reasons why he would never be suitable with someone else, he is only used to me he hisses any anyone else, he's a indoor cat only, if the new owner does not know this and sends him outside the cat would harm himself outside or even worse get run over, i don't want that, my cat only likes dry food, the new owner may not even buy that for him and might buy him cheaper horrible brands that may do him more harm than good, i know that is nitpicking but i know what is best for my cat, some guy that my boyfriend will sell him to will have no idea how to look after him.
so that gets my anxiety up even more, i've been admitted to hospital for panic attacks and fainted (i'm serious) but my boyfriend doesn't seem to care at all and even told me at the hospital that he is still getting rid of him, he can be really nasty sometimes.
so what are my options right now? (if any, i've given up all hope) he's so eager to sell that cat he's going out every day to get rid of it, once something is set in stone he never stops.