It was a girl bully that has been in Daughter's class for four years now (they are in third grade). Both girls were friends in kindergarten but in first grade, the other girl (Bully) started having major envy issues with all girls, even though she has more toys and "things" than anyone else. (She even gets gifts at her brother's birthday parties so she "doesn't throw a fit" - her mother's words.)
This is what happened that day (both kids agree and there were witnesses). Bully teases Daughter about liking boys during gym class in the morning, and then again at morning recess. Bully follows Daughter around the playground and Daughter can't get rid of her. Daughter repeatedly asks Bully to stop it. Other girls ask Bully to stop it. Bully continues.
Getting ready for lunch in the coat room, Bully continues taunting Daughter, and roughly shoves her into a boy, Daughter almost falls on the boy, and Bully teases Daughter about this boy.
Daughter goes into the bathroom to wash up for lunch, Bully follows her and steps up the attack. Daughter continues to ask her to stop teasing. Bully gets right in Daughter's face continuing to taunt her. After an entire morning of being teased, Daughter takes a step back and punches Bully in the cheek (didn't leave a bruise so I guess it wasn't too hard). Bully, who is also a terrible TattleTale, stops teasing and doesn't even tell the teacher. (!)
Bully tells her mother that night, though, and her mother calls me, furious. I apologize to mother, but point out that Bully initially crossed the line by shoving Daughter. They are still little kids, and don't always handle things well.
Bully's father tells me the next morning that Bully teases her brother mercilessly, he said, "She teases him until he cracks."
Then, Bully's mother tells the girls, "You two are not allowed to touch each other, EVER." The girls apologize to each other. Bully's mother then says, "Now give each other a hug." :censor::censor::censor:? So I say, "NOW, you aren't allowed to touch each other." (BTW, later that very morning, Bully is given a timeout for shoving Daughter and three other girls.)
Bully has written hate messages in the bathroom, and scratched a death threat to our Daughter on one of the metal stalls. She just had a birthday party and invited all boys because the girls won't come to her parties. She's got mean nicknames for all the girls in her class. She picks on everyone but has a real affinity for our Daughter, I think because they were friends once. I could go on and on about the nasty things this kid has done.
Daughter didn't get into trouble, although she got a few lectures about telling an adult before she's pushed to far. All the educators understood what had happened. Everyone agrees that both girls behaved badly. We're secretly a little glad that Daughter stands up for herself; hopefully she's learned not to punch, though. What a week.
This is what happened that day (both kids agree and there were witnesses). Bully teases Daughter about liking boys during gym class in the morning, and then again at morning recess. Bully follows Daughter around the playground and Daughter can't get rid of her. Daughter repeatedly asks Bully to stop it. Other girls ask Bully to stop it. Bully continues.
Getting ready for lunch in the coat room, Bully continues taunting Daughter, and roughly shoves her into a boy, Daughter almost falls on the boy, and Bully teases Daughter about this boy.
Daughter goes into the bathroom to wash up for lunch, Bully follows her and steps up the attack. Daughter continues to ask her to stop teasing. Bully gets right in Daughter's face continuing to taunt her. After an entire morning of being teased, Daughter takes a step back and punches Bully in the cheek (didn't leave a bruise so I guess it wasn't too hard). Bully, who is also a terrible TattleTale, stops teasing and doesn't even tell the teacher. (!)
Bully tells her mother that night, though, and her mother calls me, furious. I apologize to mother, but point out that Bully initially crossed the line by shoving Daughter. They are still little kids, and don't always handle things well.
Bully's father tells me the next morning that Bully teases her brother mercilessly, he said, "She teases him until he cracks."
Then, Bully's mother tells the girls, "You two are not allowed to touch each other, EVER." The girls apologize to each other. Bully's mother then says, "Now give each other a hug." :censor::censor::censor:? So I say, "NOW, you aren't allowed to touch each other." (BTW, later that very morning, Bully is given a timeout for shoving Daughter and three other girls.)
Bully has written hate messages in the bathroom, and scratched a death threat to our Daughter on one of the metal stalls. She just had a birthday party and invited all boys because the girls won't come to her parties. She's got mean nicknames for all the girls in her class. She picks on everyone but has a real affinity for our Daughter, I think because they were friends once. I could go on and on about the nasty things this kid has done.
Daughter didn't get into trouble, although she got a few lectures about telling an adult before she's pushed to far. All the educators understood what had happened. Everyone agrees that both girls behaved badly. We're secretly a little glad that Daughter stands up for herself; hopefully she's learned not to punch, though. What a week.