Okay, a little background information. . .
My friend John and I have been friends upwards of 8 to 9 years. Last year when he had no where to live, and no job to get a place of his own my boyfriend and I let him live with us, with no cost untill he got a job. When he did get a job and his car was not working, we drove him, at no cost to him. When it came time for him to get a car that worked, we found one for him, and helped to get it running and reliable. When he went to jail for street racing, we fronted the money to bail him out, and when he needed a cell phone, I gave him one worth almost $200.00 to help out with the cost because I wanted to help him out. . . That said, many of you may have read the other post about what to do about the annoying girlfriend, Danielle. . .
Well, a few weeks ago, she messaged my boyfriend and I asking what it was that she had done to offend us. I we both told her that it was not any one thing, we did not care for her in general, and to let sleeping dogs lay. . . She did not want to hear that and kept egging us on to tell her, so we did, and we basically told her everything that you can find in this post.
http://thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=146529
Now mind you, her friend Kendra is my room mate. She moved in with us recently, because her family pretty much kicked her out. They have, her whole life, made her feel like crap, told her she was stupid, to the point that she started to believe it. She was tired of dealing with them, and got to the point that one night on my bed, she sat there balling tears telling me that my boyfriend, best friend Carl (her boyfriend) and I were the only ones that she has ever had that has treated her like she was worth anything. . . She also clued us in that all throughout highschool and in to present day, Danielle would use Kendra. Danielle refuses to get a job, so she would ask Kendra to go to the mall with her, to which Kendra would have to drive, and then beg Kendra to buy her things. She would say "Oh this is pretty! And its not too expensive... "; and Kendra being as gullible as she is would do it, not realizing that the whole thing was Danielles plan from the begining. So it was with her telling us this that I thought she would want to distance herself from these people. Then we told Danielle how much she really sucks at life, and guess what Danielle does? Wraps Kendra around her finger so tight I dont think she can breathe. She pulled the whole, I suck so therefore everyone has to feel sorry for me, instead of me doing something to change it. So now I am guessing that Kendra feels sorry for her. . .
Now back to John. We tried to pull John aside and let him know the negative changes that we have seen in him since getting involved with this girl. He has gone from the kind of person that could argue Semantics with you for hours, to a person who is now stealing narcotics from the pharmacy he works at to take himself/sell to other people. He has gone from someone I would trust to drive my car, and to look after my house, to someone who accuses me of cheating on my boyfriend and steals from me personally. When we try to tell him the difference we notice in him, and the sort of negative influences she has been having on him he says we are just being irrational jerks, and then accuses us of stealing money from him, and only keeping him around to work on our cars. . . It was after him coming over and taking things that were not his, that I told Carl and Kendra both at the same time that John and Danielle were not to be on my property ever again.
So this leads me to the coup de grâce- My borfriend and I went out of town the week of thanksgiving! We entrusted them to look after our home and be sure the cat was taken care of. . . Kendra calls and asks when we will be home, and I told her I was not quite sure, why? To which her reply was, well I wanted to have some people over, because this is my weekend off work... I told her I did not mind, that she is an adult, that I just request that John and Danielle are not broguht into my home. She then says that is who she was planning on inviting, and that they respect her, and wont do anything. I told her I dont care who they respect. I dont want them in my home. . . My request was competley ignored, because not only did they have them over that day, but also the night after and before. They have not openly come out and told me that, but what they forget is that we have all of the same friends, and the other people that were there called me and told me they were in my house. . .
So my dilemma at this point is that I can not trust them. I feel like I have been totaly and completly betrayed! What would anyone else do? My boyfriend wants to tell her that she has 24 hours to get her things and leave, but I am a softie, and have decided to hear her side of the story...
What is everyone elses opinion. I am sorry this is so long, but I feel like I have been totaly betrayed by two of the only people I can trust!
My friend John and I have been friends upwards of 8 to 9 years. Last year when he had no where to live, and no job to get a place of his own my boyfriend and I let him live with us, with no cost untill he got a job. When he did get a job and his car was not working, we drove him, at no cost to him. When it came time for him to get a car that worked, we found one for him, and helped to get it running and reliable. When he went to jail for street racing, we fronted the money to bail him out, and when he needed a cell phone, I gave him one worth almost $200.00 to help out with the cost because I wanted to help him out. . . That said, many of you may have read the other post about what to do about the annoying girlfriend, Danielle. . .
Well, a few weeks ago, she messaged my boyfriend and I asking what it was that she had done to offend us. I we both told her that it was not any one thing, we did not care for her in general, and to let sleeping dogs lay. . . She did not want to hear that and kept egging us on to tell her, so we did, and we basically told her everything that you can find in this post.
http://thecatsite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=146529
Now mind you, her friend Kendra is my room mate. She moved in with us recently, because her family pretty much kicked her out. They have, her whole life, made her feel like crap, told her she was stupid, to the point that she started to believe it. She was tired of dealing with them, and got to the point that one night on my bed, she sat there balling tears telling me that my boyfriend, best friend Carl (her boyfriend) and I were the only ones that she has ever had that has treated her like she was worth anything. . . She also clued us in that all throughout highschool and in to present day, Danielle would use Kendra. Danielle refuses to get a job, so she would ask Kendra to go to the mall with her, to which Kendra would have to drive, and then beg Kendra to buy her things. She would say "Oh this is pretty! And its not too expensive... "; and Kendra being as gullible as she is would do it, not realizing that the whole thing was Danielles plan from the begining. So it was with her telling us this that I thought she would want to distance herself from these people. Then we told Danielle how much she really sucks at life, and guess what Danielle does? Wraps Kendra around her finger so tight I dont think she can breathe. She pulled the whole, I suck so therefore everyone has to feel sorry for me, instead of me doing something to change it. So now I am guessing that Kendra feels sorry for her. . .
Now back to John. We tried to pull John aside and let him know the negative changes that we have seen in him since getting involved with this girl. He has gone from the kind of person that could argue Semantics with you for hours, to a person who is now stealing narcotics from the pharmacy he works at to take himself/sell to other people. He has gone from someone I would trust to drive my car, and to look after my house, to someone who accuses me of cheating on my boyfriend and steals from me personally. When we try to tell him the difference we notice in him, and the sort of negative influences she has been having on him he says we are just being irrational jerks, and then accuses us of stealing money from him, and only keeping him around to work on our cars. . . It was after him coming over and taking things that were not his, that I told Carl and Kendra both at the same time that John and Danielle were not to be on my property ever again.
So this leads me to the coup de grâce- My borfriend and I went out of town the week of thanksgiving! We entrusted them to look after our home and be sure the cat was taken care of. . . Kendra calls and asks when we will be home, and I told her I was not quite sure, why? To which her reply was, well I wanted to have some people over, because this is my weekend off work... I told her I did not mind, that she is an adult, that I just request that John and Danielle are not broguht into my home. She then says that is who she was planning on inviting, and that they respect her, and wont do anything. I told her I dont care who they respect. I dont want them in my home. . . My request was competley ignored, because not only did they have them over that day, but also the night after and before. They have not openly come out and told me that, but what they forget is that we have all of the same friends, and the other people that were there called me and told me they were in my house. . .
So my dilemma at this point is that I can not trust them. I feel like I have been totaly and completly betrayed! What would anyone else do? My boyfriend wants to tell her that she has 24 hours to get her things and leave, but I am a softie, and have decided to hear her side of the story...
What is everyone elses opinion. I am sorry this is so long, but I feel like I have been totaly betrayed by two of the only people I can trust!