If there is anyone out there that can provide advice on cats getting along (the don't have to like each other) I just want them to tolerate each other.
Some background. I have had my cat Teemo since he was 4 months old and now he is 3. He is a big black cat and seems like the bully. My girlfriend moved into my apartment 8 months ago with her cat pumpkin (~4-5 yo). We did everything correctly -- I think.
We started them in separate rooms and they hissed, batted paws, etc.
Fast forward a few weeks, and they are able to eat face to face with the bowls touching. I thought this was a good sign, but they can only do that because they are distracted by food, when they aren't eating Teemo will chase her down and try to hurt her.
We moved to a new apartment (so that way Teemo didn't "own" the territory). Things were much better. They can eat and even walk around the place together -- when he wears a harness. His aggression towards her seems contradictory. Some times I feel he is just really curious and wants to play with her but she doesn't want to. Other times it looks like he's trying to seriously hurt her.
My girlfriend and myself have seriously contemplated giving him away but I will be so heart broken.
Please help! I want to keep my baby!
Some background. I have had my cat Teemo since he was 4 months old and now he is 3. He is a big black cat and seems like the bully. My girlfriend moved into my apartment 8 months ago with her cat pumpkin (~4-5 yo). We did everything correctly -- I think.
We started them in separate rooms and they hissed, batted paws, etc.
Fast forward a few weeks, and they are able to eat face to face with the bowls touching. I thought this was a good sign, but they can only do that because they are distracted by food, when they aren't eating Teemo will chase her down and try to hurt her.
We moved to a new apartment (so that way Teemo didn't "own" the territory). Things were much better. They can eat and even walk around the place together -- when he wears a harness. His aggression towards her seems contradictory. Some times I feel he is just really curious and wants to play with her but she doesn't want to. Other times it looks like he's trying to seriously hurt her.
My girlfriend and myself have seriously contemplated giving him away but I will be so heart broken.
Please help! I want to keep my baby!