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I'm "borrowing" my neighbor's cat - he's gone for six months and needs someone to watch his cat + our landlord is a slumlord (unfortunately) so the apartments all have mice and this little dude is very good at catching them, so win-win, right?
Well, almost. The cat keeps attacking me. Now, my neighbor is a bit dumb and roughs the cat up like a dog, so I think that's a big part of why he's like this (+ in a strange place, with a stranger), but I wanna know how to stop or minimize it if possible?
Basically, he attacks in two contexts: he initiates play and tries to do the whole ninja cat routine, only to get overstimulated and end up putting holes in his target (me) or he hisses and attacks when he's touched (and doesn't want it) or thinks he's going to be touched.
He's not a mean cat and a firm NO usually dissuades him immediately in the first context, I can usually stop it before it even happens. He's just trying to play and takes it too far, it's okay. He doesn't know me and what I'm okay with, I get it.
But the problem is that I'm regularly having showdowns with him because he keeps thinking I'm trying to touch him when I'm NOT, or he's putting himself in scenarios where I can't help but accidentally touch him, and then getting peeved off about it and threatening to maul me if I DARE move one more muscle!
Like last night, I opened the fridge. He came over to check it out. He's a curious one. I had to close the fridge, he wouldn't move. Remember, we can't touch him, right? He's very big on consent. I gently started closing the fridge after luring him away failed. Fridge door touches cat.
Cat is ANGRY. Why are you trying to touch me?! I don't WANT to be touched, leave me alone! Ensue hissing, cat attacks leg, pokes bloody holes in said leg. Standoff until cat realizes I'm not trying to touch him, calms down and allows me to actually move away from him without attacking me.
Obviously, I never ever purposefully touch him unless he's okay with it and I don't bother him or insist. I respected his space long before he ever attacked me. So it's a bit disheartening to me he thinks he needs to protect his personal space so fiercely.
Funny thing is, he's otherwise really comfortable. Lays down next to me belly up, slow blinks. Follows me around with his tail in the air, even rubs up against me at times. He just thinks I'm trying to grab him and stuff when I'm not.
How can I help him feel more comfortable, and come to understand that I intend to give him his space?
Well, almost. The cat keeps attacking me. Now, my neighbor is a bit dumb and roughs the cat up like a dog, so I think that's a big part of why he's like this (+ in a strange place, with a stranger), but I wanna know how to stop or minimize it if possible?
Basically, he attacks in two contexts: he initiates play and tries to do the whole ninja cat routine, only to get overstimulated and end up putting holes in his target (me) or he hisses and attacks when he's touched (and doesn't want it) or thinks he's going to be touched.
He's not a mean cat and a firm NO usually dissuades him immediately in the first context, I can usually stop it before it even happens. He's just trying to play and takes it too far, it's okay. He doesn't know me and what I'm okay with, I get it.
But the problem is that I'm regularly having showdowns with him because he keeps thinking I'm trying to touch him when I'm NOT, or he's putting himself in scenarios where I can't help but accidentally touch him, and then getting peeved off about it and threatening to maul me if I DARE move one more muscle!
Like last night, I opened the fridge. He came over to check it out. He's a curious one. I had to close the fridge, he wouldn't move. Remember, we can't touch him, right? He's very big on consent. I gently started closing the fridge after luring him away failed. Fridge door touches cat.
Cat is ANGRY. Why are you trying to touch me?! I don't WANT to be touched, leave me alone! Ensue hissing, cat attacks leg, pokes bloody holes in said leg. Standoff until cat realizes I'm not trying to touch him, calms down and allows me to actually move away from him without attacking me.
Obviously, I never ever purposefully touch him unless he's okay with it and I don't bother him or insist. I respected his space long before he ever attacked me. So it's a bit disheartening to me he thinks he needs to protect his personal space so fiercely.
Funny thing is, he's otherwise really comfortable. Lays down next to me belly up, slow blinks. Follows me around with his tail in the air, even rubs up against me at times. He just thinks I'm trying to grab him and stuff when I'm not.
How can I help him feel more comfortable, and come to understand that I intend to give him his space?