I understand exactly what you mean. My Starbuck is now 9 years old. When I adopted her she was a six week old very under socialized kitten. She was separated from her siblings at around 4 weeks old that I know of. It may have happened even earlier. Some ass threw her out a car window when she was a baby. A friend's family happened to be out walking their dog and took her indoors immediately. They could not safely keep her because their dogs wanted to eat her. They brought her to my friend's house thinking another relative would adopt her. That person had recently had to put down their baby and she looked exactly like her. They were still grieving and not ready yet. My friends were going to try to keep her but one of their cats was trying to kill her. She would have had to live in their bathroom and I did not want her to do that. I told them that I would adopt her if she got a long with my cats. I had two senior males at the time. One of them was scared of her at first and just kept his distance. My other cat adopted her immediately. He climbed me to sniff her and began talking to her. He had not climbed me like that since he was a young kitten. I did set up a safe room for her since we both work and she was too small to navigate my stairs at first. I only had to put her in her safe room when I was at work and my adult cat insisted on being locked up with her. Once she grew enough to navigate the stairs when were not home I gave her full run of the house. Tegato stepped and kitty socialized her. She was very human friendly but I had to teach her that nose biting was not a form of communication with humans. I never had to worry about the boys not being able to get away from her since she is a munchkin kitty with short legs. The boys were jumpers and she is not.
Yeah, she just sort of edged away. I praised him a lot, because I could see that he was immediately uncertain. Now they are playing a kind of tag through the house that looks like it is 70% game and 30% dominance play.
Hopefully he can help teach her boundaries/manners, because dealing with her is wearing me down and my health is going to be an issue soon.
One thing that helped me with Starbuck's boundless energy until Tegato taught her proper play was to do set lengthy one on one play time with wand toys. It really helped with her excess energy.. Once she was socialized better Claude also became good friends with her. She walked in like she owned the place. This was years ago before I knew about proper introductions and I was lucky everything just worked out. I also did not share your food issue. I just fed the boys where she could not reach their food.
Keep praising and rewarding Sinbad when he steps up. I did this with my Tegato even though he had the confidence to take on the role right away. He put up with a lot from her. She used to try to communicate she wanted to play by chomping on his head. She would even do this to him when he was sleeping. She never chomped hard enough to actually hurt him and I would have separated them if he did not step up to socialize her.
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