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I'm glad my message helped! That's a good sign that they are alright with a barrier by the, and eating. With the fight, Dunlop did follow Cocoa across our house and down into the basement. Cocoa wasn't fighting back, and he was huddled in a submissive pose with a bit of growling. When he stopped moving, Dunlop started to back down. Eventually, he "allowed" Cocoa to hide under a cabinet, then after half an hour, allowed him to crawl out, and they kind-of uneasily laid next to each other. (Until the next visits).After your message I spoke to my vet and asked about clomicalm. He’s instead put her on calmeze syrup which he said is the same. I’m wondering if clomicalm or calmeze is homeopathic or not. I’m hoping it works either way.
Your message has really really helped. You’re very right in saying how Pittan has no idea if squeaks is friend or foe. But, she seems to be accepting of her if she is being fed or squeaks is locked up tight in a playpen.
What you had said about Dunlop and cocoa having a go at each other and your mum said it’s ok, working it out, did they follow each other and keep the fight going or was it just the chasing off and the fight ending? This is where I’m struggling. I can’t seem to gauge what’s ok and what’s not anymore. There’s just always fights! So I try to keep her in the playpen as much as possible or in a room and them bring out for treats etc.
the aggression exhaustion is happening but I have to sit between them to make sure Pittan doesn’t lunge at playpen and to distract her when she focuses in on squeaks.
This all however will come to a bit of a break as I have to fly for a wedding next week. Had hoped it would’ve been sorted by now really! My dad normally keeps Pittan when we travel and my friends have agreed to keep squeaks. I’m hoping it won’t set us back with any progress (not much in truth). Is it too much to hope that the stress of being in a car/different environments/space apart/smelling different might help with this whole drama? Or is this just being too hopefull?
Hope the ‘night terrors’ sort themselves out soon! Prime bed cuddle space is hard to come by. There are after all only so many legs to lean on Toes to nibble.
It depends on personalities too. Dunlop had lived with a female tortie, and a female siamese before (before I lived with my husband). He's been the kind of cat who needs to have a full on smackdown with the other cat for a few times, then he can assess their threat level and accept them. When Dunlop lived with the siamese, they got along super well. Once and a while, they'd go up to each other, smack the other three or four times, as if to say "Hey I can still take you in a fight and WIN" and then just walk away.
So, when we introduced Don, we knew some conflicts were going to happen. Short intros did not work, again, since Don was a quick, confident kitty and Dunlop was way too stressed out because he couldn't be an alpha with Don. So, we finally just opened the door and let Don explore, and Dunlop mostly followed him. He got overwhelmed after an hour and we separated them. This went on for a few days, until we started leaving them out during the day. Since Don also has alpha tendencies, they'd puff and posture, but since they weren't launching at each other constantly, we let the do their "kitty fencing." They had two really good fights that we had to use a blanket to break up. They came outta nowhere, and there was screaming and a cat ball rolling around the house. We still don't know who won, but after the second time, they both just stared at each other a bit and avoided each other. For six months after that, sometimes we'd hear screeching/yowling and go clap to break it up, then they'd separate and calm down on their own, and did their own things. They never actually did more than take some fur out during this entire time, so that's how we knew to let them cat it out, in our situation. Our rule was if we heard screeching for longer than 30 seconds-a minute, we'd go break it up. Long enough to assert dominance, not long enough for them to get blinded by kitty rage. Again, this just worked in that intro with our two headstrong males. They will sometimes still have little tussels if one decides they want to be alpha, but have no problems laying next to each other, playing side by side, or eating together.
This is why we thought Cocoa, a submissive cat, would be great for our third cat. Now we're guessing the boys are having trouble respecting the wimp, too.
How long will you be gone for the wedding? (Just curious. We usually have a cat sitter who comes to see our boys twice a day when we're gone, I like hearing about what others do when they go away haha). If it's for more than a few days, I'd maybe go back to introductions at stage 1 for a little bit, since they would have been separated and not used the scent of the other anymore. It could be good or bad, but hopefully good! Depends on how much of a grudge Pittan decides to hold