Hi. I have a problem that is stressing me out a lot. My husband and I just got an 11 week old kitten. This is supposed to be his pet because I already have a cat I love very much.
For the first 4 days she was here, I fed her and I also tried to socialize her by picking her up a lot and putting her on me while she slept. Then I realized that was causing her to pay more attention to me than my husband.
I read that a cat can create a new bond at any age, like when an adult cat is adopted. I really don't want this cat to prefer me because she isn't a very cuddly cat, and that's just not my type. We can only have 2 cats at any time, and I would be very sad if we didn't have a cuddler. I just want her to go to my husband when she is looking for affection, so that he will feel that she is his cat.
So far (starting on day 5), I've had him feed her instead of me, and him give her treats. I taught him to blink slowly at her, and I only stare at her. I put her on his lap while she sleeps, and he is the main one who plays with her. Is there anything else I can do to influence who she bonds with?
Thank you in advance for any advice you can give.
For the first 4 days she was here, I fed her and I also tried to socialize her by picking her up a lot and putting her on me while she slept. Then I realized that was causing her to pay more attention to me than my husband.
I read that a cat can create a new bond at any age, like when an adult cat is adopted. I really don't want this cat to prefer me because she isn't a very cuddly cat, and that's just not my type. We can only have 2 cats at any time, and I would be very sad if we didn't have a cuddler. I just want her to go to my husband when she is looking for affection, so that he will feel that she is his cat.
So far (starting on day 5), I've had him feed her instead of me, and him give her treats. I taught him to blink slowly at her, and I only stare at her. I put her on his lap while she sleeps, and he is the main one who plays with her. Is there anything else I can do to influence who she bonds with?
Thank you in advance for any advice you can give.