I am so sorry!!
You are doing the right thing Chris,as hard as it may be, and she will cross over with her loved ones by her side.
Chris - I had a greyhound who had bone cancer in his jaw. It was inoperable because they would have had to remove a lot of bones in his head to get all the cancer and he would not have been able to eat on his own again. Having lost family members to bone cancer, I know the level of pain that it causes. I helped him cross before his serious discomfort turned into full blown pain and yes, I arranged the day in advance.Originally Posted by Snake_Lady
Exactly.
It is both a blessing and a curse. Logical brain says: It's a blessing that she won't have to deal with horrible pain. Emotional brain says: It's a curse because I know her day of death
I "think" it would be easier if she appeared sick..... but I don't want her suffering either......
You do know me well.Originally Posted by Momofmany
Chris - I had a greyhound who had bone cancer in his jaw. It was inoperable because they would have had to remove a lot of bones in his head to get all the cancer and he would not have been able to eat on his own again. Having lost family members to bone cancer, I know the level of pain that it causes. I helped him cross before his serious discomfort turned into full blown pain and yes, I arranged the day in advance.
So I've been in your shoes and all I can say is that do your best not to second guess yourself. If I know you like I think I do, you'll try to second guess this decision for years to come. You know its the right thing to do, you'll berate yourself about possibly not waiting longer. You are preventing her from experiencing extreme pain and you know that is going to come any day now. It is the most humane thing to do right now.
Morecoming your way.
Believe me, she does.Originally Posted by Snake_Lady
I would like to think she knows I'm doing the right thing.
She knows, believe me, she knows you are doing the right thing.Originally Posted by Snake_Lady
I am so not ready for this.
Tomorrow morning we will all drive out to my inlaw's place......me and my girls in one vehicle, Mark in the other (he won't let me drive his car).
We'll play with Brandy, and leave her with my DH. She'll be happy and barking, and wagging her fool tail off LOL. That will be our last memory of her. Ignoring the huge lump on her face, she's the same ol pup she ever was...slightly slower in her old age.
She has known so much love in her life time, and for that I am so thankful. I would like to think she knows I'm doing the right thing.
I wish I was like my husband in a sense. He is much more logical and rational, whereas I am emotional, and rationality seems to be an afterthought. Mark is going to miss Brandy too, but he, in every aspect of his life, is an if it's gotta be done, get it done type of person. He doesn't get the emotional attachment like I do. Yes he cares about Brandy, and he is sad her time in this life is over, but he knows we need to do this and because of that, he is slightly detached from it.
You know, I think this is why I love my snakes. I've had more heartache in the last month's time due to furry pets, than I have in my many years of owning reptiles, and yes I've lost snakes, had to euthanise a bearded dragon, euthanise babies that have no chance of survival, etc. There is not the emotional attachment there....
Originally Posted by Trillcat
She knows, believe me, she knows you are doing the right thing.
It is best to leave this place for another being a "Happy and barking, and wagging her fool tail off" doggie than to leave it another way.
My heart is breaking for you, I have been where you are, questioning, letting my emotions get me, knowing what needs to be done, but wanting it just NOT be happening. I would not wish what you are going through on anyone.
To your daughter if she is reading Be strong, but let yourself be sad, Its Ok to cry your eyes out, it's part of going through this. It's OK to not cry if you don't want to. Know that you and your family did all you guys could do and that this is the best thing you could do for her now. It is soooo hard to deal with, but you will all get through it, though it seem so horrible now, it will get better.
For all.