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Not all cats are lap cats, but that does not mean that they love us less than the cuddly kitties. I have the impression that we often misinterpret the non cuddly kitties for less "loving", while this is absolutely not true. And I wanted to share my experience with less cuddly cats and wanted to have yours.
I grew up with an extremely cuddly cat who would always be sleeping on me. I used to think that if your cat is not like that it means that you don't share a real bond with the animal. And then I adopted my current cat who is NOT a big fan of pets, cuddles and naps. I got her when she was 10 weeks old and spent hours and hours with her playing and bonding. I wanted to have the same relationship than with my previous cat and sometimes I would doubt her love for me and feel frustrated. This is not fair to her: She is loving! She has a real bond with me! Just in a different way. I had to re-learn everything I though I knew about cats.
Here is a small list of things she does to show me she loves mey:
1. She follows me everywhere
2. She always always try to engage me in doing something with her, always want my undivided attention
3. She does not care much about closed doors excepts if I am on the other side of it (she would then cry until I open)
4. If she is somewhere doing something and hear my voice somewhere else she would come running
4. She grooms me
5. She lets me pet her even if she is not a fan
6. she runs greeting me at the door and will run after me for while until I settle down
7. She is very loyal and only wants to play with me
ect...
And from time to time would come to curl up against my face.
What did she teach me:
1. That loves comes in many different way
2. That you cannot make anyone becomes something they are not
3. That they are thousands of games and things to do with your cat that is not petting
4. That if I want my freedom to be whoever I want I have to give it to others and to my animals
5. That I love her so much despite that the fact I always though I would only love "affectionate" cats
6. That a cuddle with a non specially cuddly cat can make you feel way more special, because you know that it is because it is you...
Do you have a non lap-cat but you know that he still loves you dearly? How? What do you appreciate the most about your cat that comes from it not being a lap cat? In a word: why is your cat the best just the way she is?
Not all cats are lap cats, but that does not mean that they love us less than the cuddly kitties. I have the impression that we often misinterpret the non cuddly kitties for less "loving", while this is absolutely not true. And I wanted to share my experience with less cuddly cats and wanted to have yours.
I grew up with an extremely cuddly cat who would always be sleeping on me. I used to think that if your cat is not like that it means that you don't share a real bond with the animal. And then I adopted my current cat who is NOT a big fan of pets, cuddles and naps. I got her when she was 10 weeks old and spent hours and hours with her playing and bonding. I wanted to have the same relationship than with my previous cat and sometimes I would doubt her love for me and feel frustrated. This is not fair to her: She is loving! She has a real bond with me! Just in a different way. I had to re-learn everything I though I knew about cats.
Here is a small list of things she does to show me she loves mey:
1. She follows me everywhere
2. She always always try to engage me in doing something with her, always want my undivided attention
3. She does not care much about closed doors excepts if I am on the other side of it (she would then cry until I open)
4. If she is somewhere doing something and hear my voice somewhere else she would come running
4. She grooms me
5. She lets me pet her even if she is not a fan
6. she runs greeting me at the door and will run after me for while until I settle down
7. She is very loyal and only wants to play with me
ect...
And from time to time would come to curl up against my face.
What did she teach me:
1. That loves comes in many different way
2. That you cannot make anyone becomes something they are not
3. That they are thousands of games and things to do with your cat that is not petting
4. That if I want my freedom to be whoever I want I have to give it to others and to my animals
5. That I love her so much despite that the fact I always though I would only love "affectionate" cats
6. That a cuddle with a non specially cuddly cat can make you feel way more special, because you know that it is because it is you...
Do you have a non lap-cat but you know that he still loves you dearly? How? What do you appreciate the most about your cat that comes from it not being a lap cat? In a word: why is your cat the best just the way she is?