Thanks as always!"I was thinking about it yesterday and I realized one other fear too - that somehow they just won't get along ever and I'll have to rehome Florie." - I forgot that one as well because I already put that to bed. :/ Maybe that is a .0000000001% risk.
"That's the real fear at the bottom of this whole thing." - Ok, that is good to know. I personally think we passed that risk a long time ago but we need to prove that to you. Good to know.
"I love her too much to have that happen! " - Agreed!!! But honestly I don't think that is anywhere on the radar. There is not one thing that makes me think that is anywhere near a possibility.
"Last night treat session was good - she came a little further out to get some treats." - GREAT!!!
" Hawthorne stayed focussed on his treats." - This tells us everything. If the above risk was anywhere near on the radar there is NO WAY this would be happening.
"They both ate breakfast together at the gate. I can't really get them closer than say, four feet (two feet on each side of the gate) but I figure that's ok. " - Totally fine. Not an issue at all. If they eat and all is good then it is positive.
"We're also trying to figure out a way to prevent her from jumping the gate in the hallway." - Ok, but honestly I would not worry too much about it. She needs to think about the risk vs reward. I actually want her to think more about that.
" That would give me some peace of mind," - Ok, I understand. BUT I do think it is best to keep it like it is for now if at all possible.
Is she with you in the office at all or is she in a different room (or Hawthorne?)?
" especially overnight" - So how is it now overnight?
"or when (in September) I have to go back to the office." - Or maybe we will be intro'd by then. But I understand IF we get to that point then yes, we can do something to prevent her from jumping. BUT I am not sure that is something we are going to need to deal with.
"She seems to understand she can knock cardboard away" - Hahahahaha, yep, they do figure it out. Now, if she was that afraid of him...................
"so I'm trying to think of other options." - Ok
I do guess they will be sleeping and watching birds etc when you are gone but it is good to think of an option.
"Then I'll feel comfortable leaving her door open and doing gates up all of the time. " - Ok. I understand. I do think we'll have them intro'd by then but it is good to have a backup plan.
Who do you think is more worried, you or Florie?
I am again not reading anything to suggest any issues with them. We do need to get them out in the main room (her playing, them eating, or chasing treats (a form of playing), hanging out, etc). The hall is problematic because there is only one way of escape (well 2, through him or retreat). She is doing amazingly well there but it does make it harder. BUT they are doing great with it. I do think out in the main room will give a better setup.
How are they playing? If she can play in front of him and he watches that would be huge as well.
Hang in there. They are doing great. We are going to get there.
Yes I think I'm more worried than Florie, hahah. I'm doing my best. I went for a long bike ride yesterday - physical activity helps me feel calmer. Florie is on my work desk with me right now, dipping her paw into my mug to get the leftover oat milk.
Right now, out setup is going like this:
- breakfast at the gate around 7am with Florie in her room and Hawthorne out
- I close the door to Florie's room and she stays in there until 8:30am - Hawthorne gets to have full reign of the rest of the house
- at 8:30, Hawthorne goes into the French door room (just the gate up) and Florie comes up and has full reign of the house until 12:30 (they have their food puzzles and then usually she wanders around a bit, fusses at the gate a bit with Hawthorne, and sleeps in my lap in the office)
- at 12:30, she goes into our bedroom and I close the door (there is no gate on our room). She was going into the French door room for awhile, for scent exchanges, but she seems to like it better in our room. Much better windows. Hawthorne gets full reign again. He usually sleeps in the office (where I'm working) on her bed.
- at 4pm, I let Florie out of the bedroom and she goes into the main living room area, while Hawthorne stays in the hallway territory (so then I'm using the new hallway gate to divide the space).
- at 6ish, they have supper through the gate (I've swapped them back so now Florie is back in her room and Hawthorne has full reign of the house). Usually then I close the door again to Florie's room. That's typically the time I go for a walk or leave the house for a bit.
- at 8ish, I switch them again - Florie comes into the living room space and Hawthorne goes back into the 'hallway' territory.
- at 9ish we do before bed treats, face-to-face, and then Florie either goes into her own room (door closed) or (lately) into our room, door closed.
So really it's those last remaining pockets of time where the door is closed that I'm thinking about. That, and increasing face to face during mealtimes.
She will also play in front of him, but it's where he's in the French door room and she's in the living room. She really doesn't pay much attention to him at those times (other than the gate fussing) and he can kind of see her, through the legs of the table. She'll chase the toy no problem. I'll try to move a bit closer and see if that works.