well, here is a story to follow a question/dillema i have over two of my cats that are no longer with me.
i have six cats, i'm not sure how this happened ! it happened over a few months, and i think, besides loving cats as much as i do, i got them because i was never allowed to have cats as a child or even as a teenager, as my mother is afraid of them (due to a childhood experience with wild cats) and my brother is allergic. my father would let me have cats & dogs but i didnt live with him, and was only able to see them once in awhile. so, as an adult, being responsible enough and loving enough, and having enough money, i found myself not being able to resist getting them... all six of them !
so, i found myself with all these precious, amazing, beautiful cats. when i got them, i got them with my good friend, Cameron, and we agreed to share them, as we lived together. then a few months later i moved out and took 4 of the cats, while he kept 2 and we visited often. then a few months after that he decided to take a job in Mexico (for only 1 month), arranging to have a women friend of his family take care of them. so he left. then his mother called and told me this woman wouldnt be looking after them as she had to move out of her house unexpectedly and couldnt manage them.
so, she offered a home for them with friends of hers with a farm. seeing as i already had 4, i couldnt take 2 more in my home as my apartment just isnt big enough and i didnt think it was incredibly fair to my cats, or my roomate. there was no other solution at the time, and this solution was meant to be permenant as these people were looking for cats to keep.
when Cameron got back and found out, he was hysterical, like i had been when i found out they had to move. its about 4 months later now and Cameron is able to look after the cats full time, permanately. we just havent known what to do, and have been trying to figure out the best approach.
for Cameron, he wasnt aware at the time they went to a new home, because i didnt want to upset him while he was away, and there wasnt anything that could be done at the time anyway. so, he has some rights in getting them back, right?
the problem is, is it wrong to ask for our cats back?
these cats mean more then you can imagine (or i guess you can)
to me and to him, and i find myself getting increasingly depressed over the situation, and wanting so much to see them again. one of them was the first cat we got; Sebastion. and i miss them so much.
is it wrong to ask for them back or take actions?
they have only had our cats a few months, while we had them over a year, loved them, got their shots, raised them...
its been a question in my mind for some time, not knowing what to do, and if its wrong to approach these nice people and ask/demand if we have to - for them back.
i just dont think i can be without them any longer. but i cant decide morally what the right thing is to do.
any feedback would be appreciated, as i just dont know what to do now.
i hope all of this made sense, its getting late here, and talking about this upsets me, and i start to ramble on & on !
thanks for reading all of this ( if you managed it )
~ Katie ~
i have six cats, i'm not sure how this happened ! it happened over a few months, and i think, besides loving cats as much as i do, i got them because i was never allowed to have cats as a child or even as a teenager, as my mother is afraid of them (due to a childhood experience with wild cats) and my brother is allergic. my father would let me have cats & dogs but i didnt live with him, and was only able to see them once in awhile. so, as an adult, being responsible enough and loving enough, and having enough money, i found myself not being able to resist getting them... all six of them !
so, i found myself with all these precious, amazing, beautiful cats. when i got them, i got them with my good friend, Cameron, and we agreed to share them, as we lived together. then a few months later i moved out and took 4 of the cats, while he kept 2 and we visited often. then a few months after that he decided to take a job in Mexico (for only 1 month), arranging to have a women friend of his family take care of them. so he left. then his mother called and told me this woman wouldnt be looking after them as she had to move out of her house unexpectedly and couldnt manage them.
so, she offered a home for them with friends of hers with a farm. seeing as i already had 4, i couldnt take 2 more in my home as my apartment just isnt big enough and i didnt think it was incredibly fair to my cats, or my roomate. there was no other solution at the time, and this solution was meant to be permenant as these people were looking for cats to keep.
when Cameron got back and found out, he was hysterical, like i had been when i found out they had to move. its about 4 months later now and Cameron is able to look after the cats full time, permanately. we just havent known what to do, and have been trying to figure out the best approach.
for Cameron, he wasnt aware at the time they went to a new home, because i didnt want to upset him while he was away, and there wasnt anything that could be done at the time anyway. so, he has some rights in getting them back, right?
the problem is, is it wrong to ask for our cats back?
these cats mean more then you can imagine (or i guess you can)
is it wrong to ask for them back or take actions?
they have only had our cats a few months, while we had them over a year, loved them, got their shots, raised them...
its been a question in my mind for some time, not knowing what to do, and if its wrong to approach these nice people and ask/demand if we have to - for them back.
i just dont think i can be without them any longer. but i cant decide morally what the right thing is to do.
any feedback would be appreciated, as i just dont know what to do now.
i hope all of this made sense, its getting late here, and talking about this upsets me, and i start to ramble on & on !
thanks for reading all of this ( if you managed it )
~ Katie ~