I adopted 8 months old Timmy about a month ago because I wanted to get a companion for my 6-year-old Cailey after my another 6-year-old Tyler passed away few months ago due to cancer relapsed.
Since Cailey is a timid cat and did get bullied by Tyler sometimes in the past although they grew up together, so I planned to find a cat that's not dominant. When I saw Timmy at the shelter, he's very playful. The staff there told me he is not a dominant cat, ok with another cats and seems to know his boundary around the other older cats etc. so I adopted him.
After reading lots of information from the internet, I have done the introduction slowly in about two weeks and it seems successful because they had no fight, some hisses and growls from Cailey, both can eat together and stay in the same room. Cailey even shows her belly and seems relax when Timmy is around.
Now I think I didn't do enough research before adopting another cat. I have been thinking I must have chosen the wrong cat for Cailey because Timmy is super active with endless energy. I know that he's still a kitten and it takes time. I will also play with him a lot to drain his energy (he is actually draining my energy) and distract him from stalking Cailey but he wants to play every moment except sleeping even he's tired and panting after play sessions. Whenever we stop playing with him, he will look for something to play with so if Cailey is around even just sitting on the floor, he will stare at her and get ready to run to her.
I am able to distract him with playing but that means I need to play with him the whole time otherwise he will look for Cailey. Although he's not constantly looking for Cailey, his attention will go to her easily whenever he sees her walking, hears any sounds from her such as grooming, scratching the post, drinking water, even using the litter box etc. He will also jump on her back, grab and bite her neck sometimes. Cailey will fight back if Timmy is too rough but she usually will walk or run away because of her timid characteristic.
Cailey is a cutie pie but timid, sensitive to noise and movement, afraid of strangers but she seems ok when Timmy is around. She's also a bush dweller so she likes to stay on the ground, won't go up high if she needs to run away and usually hide under a bed or inside my closet. This will also attract Timmy to follow her.
I know that this is the process but need to get some advise what I should do next to make sure Cailey won't be too stressed and end up hiding from Timmy if he's too aggressive. The more Cailey hides, the more Timmy wants to play with or stalk on her when she comes out.
Here are some situations to make me hesitate to let Timmy out 24/7:
1) Timmy keeps annoying Cailey, pounce on her, chase after her. Should I just let him do that? I just worry it will make Cailey very stressful and stay away or hide from us or him.
2) When Cailey goes to the litter box, Timmy hears the sound then run there and sniff her, so Cailey had to leave the litter box and go back later, it was lucky I was there a few times to stop him so Cailey can finish her business. I guess this is still considered normal because he's still a kitten and curious? But it may not be healthy for Cailey if we are not around. Anything I can do?
3)Do they still need more time before I let Timmy out 24/7?
4) I will be away for 3 days in mid August (in about 2 weeks). I have friends who can come over to check on them but any suggestion how I should handle them? Should I separate them when I'm away but then Timmy will be staying in the guest room for 3 days with no interaction with Cailey? Or start to let him out 24/7 now? If I let him out without anyone around and play with him in those 3 days, would he turn all his energy on Cailey? I worry Cailey will start to hate him or afraid of him after these 3 days? Although I have tried letting Timmy out 24/7 this past weekend, I'm still hesitate if I should continue because Timmy is really too active.
Sorry for the long posting. Any advise would be appreciated. Many thanks!
Since Cailey is a timid cat and did get bullied by Tyler sometimes in the past although they grew up together, so I planned to find a cat that's not dominant. When I saw Timmy at the shelter, he's very playful. The staff there told me he is not a dominant cat, ok with another cats and seems to know his boundary around the other older cats etc. so I adopted him.
After reading lots of information from the internet, I have done the introduction slowly in about two weeks and it seems successful because they had no fight, some hisses and growls from Cailey, both can eat together and stay in the same room. Cailey even shows her belly and seems relax when Timmy is around.
Now I think I didn't do enough research before adopting another cat. I have been thinking I must have chosen the wrong cat for Cailey because Timmy is super active with endless energy. I know that he's still a kitten and it takes time. I will also play with him a lot to drain his energy (he is actually draining my energy) and distract him from stalking Cailey but he wants to play every moment except sleeping even he's tired and panting after play sessions. Whenever we stop playing with him, he will look for something to play with so if Cailey is around even just sitting on the floor, he will stare at her and get ready to run to her.
I am able to distract him with playing but that means I need to play with him the whole time otherwise he will look for Cailey. Although he's not constantly looking for Cailey, his attention will go to her easily whenever he sees her walking, hears any sounds from her such as grooming, scratching the post, drinking water, even using the litter box etc. He will also jump on her back, grab and bite her neck sometimes. Cailey will fight back if Timmy is too rough but she usually will walk or run away because of her timid characteristic.
Cailey is a cutie pie but timid, sensitive to noise and movement, afraid of strangers but she seems ok when Timmy is around. She's also a bush dweller so she likes to stay on the ground, won't go up high if she needs to run away and usually hide under a bed or inside my closet. This will also attract Timmy to follow her.
I know that this is the process but need to get some advise what I should do next to make sure Cailey won't be too stressed and end up hiding from Timmy if he's too aggressive. The more Cailey hides, the more Timmy wants to play with or stalk on her when she comes out.
Here are some situations to make me hesitate to let Timmy out 24/7:
1) Timmy keeps annoying Cailey, pounce on her, chase after her. Should I just let him do that? I just worry it will make Cailey very stressful and stay away or hide from us or him.
2) When Cailey goes to the litter box, Timmy hears the sound then run there and sniff her, so Cailey had to leave the litter box and go back later, it was lucky I was there a few times to stop him so Cailey can finish her business. I guess this is still considered normal because he's still a kitten and curious? But it may not be healthy for Cailey if we are not around. Anything I can do?
3)Do they still need more time before I let Timmy out 24/7?
4) I will be away for 3 days in mid August (in about 2 weeks). I have friends who can come over to check on them but any suggestion how I should handle them? Should I separate them when I'm away but then Timmy will be staying in the guest room for 3 days with no interaction with Cailey? Or start to let him out 24/7 now? If I let him out without anyone around and play with him in those 3 days, would he turn all his energy on Cailey? I worry Cailey will start to hate him or afraid of him after these 3 days? Although I have tried letting Timmy out 24/7 this past weekend, I'm still hesitate if I should continue because Timmy is really too active.
Sorry for the long posting. Any advise would be appreciated. Many thanks!