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Just an update;
I had to attend a conference overnight from Thursday to this morning and Bella bit my boyfriend while I was gone I knew she would be anxious with me being gone for so long and I'm upset because I know if this happens one more time he will be done and I will probably have to return her. He likes animals but we definitely differ on our levels of empathy for animals. I doubt he did anything too wild and it probably had a lot to do with me being gone for so long and her being extra on edge, but I am constantly having to remind him what to do or what not to do because she is a special cat and he can't treat her the same way he plays and messes with my cats back home. I will probably put off trying to train her with the pet carrier for a while just until things settle back down. She hissed and tried to bite me earlier shortly after I got home while she was sitting on my lap again. I hope this isn't going to be a reoccurring thing every time I have to stay over night somewhere. I don't go home often but I will be attending a handful of conferences during the spring that will require me to stay over night and I worry she will rebound every time I leave and come back. I wish I knew what she was thinking so I could just do exactly what she wants I'm sure it has a lot to do with her abandonment issues, but I don't know how to fix that.
Thank you all for always listening to me and reading my comments. It helps a lot when I feel so helpless
I had to attend a conference overnight from Thursday to this morning and Bella bit my boyfriend while I was gone I knew she would be anxious with me being gone for so long and I'm upset because I know if this happens one more time he will be done and I will probably have to return her. He likes animals but we definitely differ on our levels of empathy for animals. I doubt he did anything too wild and it probably had a lot to do with me being gone for so long and her being extra on edge, but I am constantly having to remind him what to do or what not to do because she is a special cat and he can't treat her the same way he plays and messes with my cats back home. I will probably put off trying to train her with the pet carrier for a while just until things settle back down. She hissed and tried to bite me earlier shortly after I got home while she was sitting on my lap again. I hope this isn't going to be a reoccurring thing every time I have to stay over night somewhere. I don't go home often but I will be attending a handful of conferences during the spring that will require me to stay over night and I worry she will rebound every time I leave and come back. I wish I knew what she was thinking so I could just do exactly what she wants I'm sure it has a lot to do with her abandonment issues, but I don't know how to fix that.
Thank you all for always listening to me and reading my comments. It helps a lot when I feel so helpless