I know exactly how you feel. In total this process took 6 months, and I am still a bit nervous with them. We also moved homes, which I think was beneficial. Just be really, really, really patient and accept that there is no magic bullet. Feel free to DM if you need advice or just to vent.
Hi all. We are now in 'all doors open most of the day' phase. They are still separated when we sleep or leave the house, and continue to be more skittish and prone to piloerection than they were before the incident, but they are well on their way to being fully integrated again. They are play...
Hi all. Just an update and some questions. The house is mostly finished, everyone is pretty settled, all the rooms smell like everybody, etc. We cat proofed the patio, and they both have access to it supervised (separately still). We have begun clicker training with them, and they are at the...
Hi all. We've moved, been here about a week and a half. We are back to doing little peekaboo feeding sessions. Feels like a regression to be honest, but I'm worried about the new atmosphere etc. We had them in separate rooms for about a week, switched them the night before last and they've gone...
We've been doing 'peekaboo' sessions with clickers and treats for looking at each other and not freaking out, starting to get purring when we're doing this. Officially moving the 1st of May, and the new place will be infinitely better for us and them. Getting some nice outdoor space to enjoy and...
I have feliway multicat going for the last 2 months. They just hate being alone. I finally broke and hired a behaviorist, total waste of money. At least I know now.
Hi all. The saga continues I guess. It's been a month and a half and all I've accomplished is getting them to eat meals closer together. We decided to try opening the flap before we actually put their food down (we have them sit before we give it) and one hissed at her sister again. I'm losing...
Question unrelated to aggression... we occasionally put somebody in the bedroom by themselves so we can exist in the rest of the house unfettered. Not for crazy extended periods or anything, but for a few hours. One of them... WILL. NOT. STOP. SCREAMING. I am trying to ignore her until she's...
Our kitchen wall is the side of a parking space, people open their car doors into our house every evening. Today, people came to strip paint off the house and repaint, it is also possible that the aggressive cat was feeling anxious about all the weird scraping noises and things that happened...
Separately, we can either move very soon or in 3 months due to our landlord selling the property. We can renew for the remainder of the lease or just cut and run. I hate this place, and it is constantly loud and stressful for them and us. I am torn between a new environment being good for them...
Hi all, just looking for advice. We have installed a screen door to the bedroom, and are using a baby gate to keep some distance between the cats. Today we tried leaving the flap open a bit after one of them was done eating. The other was still at her dish. The one that finished eating was...
Thank you for the information, I appreciate it. I will look at the literature you sent, hopefully there is some new information in there. I do have Feliway Multicat going in my house, I may need to get some more.