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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    I know exactly how you feel. In total this process took 6 months, and I am still a bit nervous with them. We also moved homes, which I think was beneficial. Just be really, really, really patient and accept that there is no magic bullet. Feel free to DM if you need advice or just to vent.
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Not quite normal, there are definitely still nerves. Sometimes more than others.
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Hi all. We are now in 'all doors open most of the day' phase. They are still separated when we sleep or leave the house, and continue to be more skittish and prone to piloerection than they were before the incident, but they are well on their way to being fully integrated again. They are play...
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Hi all. Just an update and some questions. The house is mostly finished, everyone is pretty settled, all the rooms smell like everybody, etc. We cat proofed the patio, and they both have access to it supervised (separately still). We have begun clicker training with them, and they are at the...
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Hi all. We've moved, been here about a week and a half. We are back to doing little peekaboo feeding sessions. Feels like a regression to be honest, but I'm worried about the new atmosphere etc. We had them in separate rooms for about a week, switched them the night before last and they've gone...
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    We've been doing 'peekaboo' sessions with clickers and treats for looking at each other and not freaking out, starting to get purring when we're doing this. Officially moving the 1st of May, and the new place will be infinitely better for us and them. Getting some nice outdoor space to enjoy and...
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    I have feliway multicat going for the last 2 months. They just hate being alone. I finally broke and hired a behaviorist, total waste of money. At least I know now.
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Hi all. The saga continues I guess. It's been a month and a half and all I've accomplished is getting them to eat meals closer together. We decided to try opening the flap before we actually put their food down (we have them sit before we give it) and one hissed at her sister again. I'm losing...
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    I'm so sorry. It's the absolute worst. And now COVID has locked us in our houses. We'll get through it.
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Question unrelated to aggression... we occasionally put somebody in the bedroom by themselves so we can exist in the rest of the house unfettered. Not for crazy extended periods or anything, but for a few hours. One of them... WILL. NOT. STOP. SCREAMING. I am trying to ignore her until she's...
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Our kitchen wall is the side of a parking space, people open their car doors into our house every evening. Today, people came to strip paint off the house and repaint, it is also possible that the aggressive cat was feeling anxious about all the weird scraping noises and things that happened...
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Separately, we can either move very soon or in 3 months due to our landlord selling the property. We can renew for the remainder of the lease or just cut and run. I hate this place, and it is constantly loud and stressful for them and us. I am torn between a new environment being good for them...
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Hi all, just looking for advice. We have installed a screen door to the bedroom, and are using a baby gate to keep some distance between the cats. Today we tried leaving the flap open a bit after one of them was done eating. The other was still at her dish. The one that finished eating was...
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Thank you for the information, I appreciate it. I will look at the literature you sent, hopefully there is some new information in there. I do have Feliway Multicat going in my house, I may need to get some more.
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    How long did it take to get your cats back together?
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Thanks. It's been really hard, there is still some hissing and one of them is sick at the moment. I have been working on this with my partner, but I think we are breaking up and now I have to figure out where I'm going to live with two fighting cats and how I'm going to keep this up by myself...
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Poor babies, I think they miss each other. They both gravitate toward the door or the gate, whatever is separating them, even if there's somebody in the room to play/cuddle with. I'm in the bedroom with one and the other is outside mewing a sad little quiet mew. Of course she's might also just...
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    We did it, everything was fine. Miss hissy pants got up from her bowl to head to the gate again but I have a nice pad that makes a good wall. No hissing no fluffing, just have to be vigilant about keeping them at a distance.
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    Litter mates had encounter with outside cat, now hate each other

    Also, we were scheduled to do one mow session tonight, should we still do it?
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