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Um hello everyone. Im new here so I dont know if this is the right part of the forum to put this.
My husband and I moved in together about a year and a month or two ago. He brought with him two cats and a dog. I had alreqdy had two cats, a bearded dragon, and a dog. Our roommate, my aunt also had a dog. At the time my mom was living with us qlso had a dog.
My mom has since moved out with her dog. One of my cats mainly stays outdoors. I know, I know...Thats honestly not ideal. But I cannot force her to stay in. She is spayed. My other cat is neutered.
One of the cats my husband brought was spayed and declawed on the front. We were not her original owners and we would never declaw a cat. That is just cruel.
She was 16 years old. Sadly we had to put her down due to a serious medical issue. The doctor said he could do surgery but my husband and I agreed we should just put her down. It was a very hard choice. I broke down sobbing. Still want to cry about it.
The other cat also female was not fixed. Mainly because where he previously lived in another state it was extremely expensive. Then he moved here to my home state with me. I got him an appointment with our local Humane Society to get her fixed.
She is spayed and all healed up now. But lately she has begun to pee outside the litter box. Orginally our 16 year old would go to the back door and pee and poo there. We tried everything we could to stop her. Trying new litters, cleaning, and even trying a litter box in the livingroom where she mainly stayed. And still nope...
We also took her to the vet but he didnt find anything wrong. As I said before we sadly had to put her down. She raised my husband's other cat though they are not related.
We kept an eye on her to be sure if we needed to do something we would. Then his dog passed away not too long ago. That is when it really began.
My indoor male cat began to stay in a closet all day and night. Only venturing out for a little food or water when no one was looking. Finally when he was out my husband quickly shut the door...He has been staying in our room since.
But the real issue is the female cat that is my husband's. We both love her very much. And I know everyone reading this is wondering why I am going off track and not stating the problem. I kinda thought a little background would help.
Suddenly when his dog who was 14 or 15 passed away she too began acting strange. Goint potty by the back door. Hiding in a window behind the lizards cage. Refusing to eat any food placed down in the room we usually had one litter box two kennels for our big dogs, and the lizard. Not even my male cat would eat in there anymore. It was strange but we then got two new bowls for food as the old large one we had some how got busted.
We placed the smaller ones on the floor of our room. They began eating right away. So we placed a litter box in here and left the other in animal room as we call it. Still the female cat kept going by the back door and began to not come into our room. At all unless we picked her up and brought her in. Usually itd have to be me. She wouldnt even touch the food in our room. I began having to feed her out in the dining room/kitchen area but would have to put the food up immediately after she walked away or my aunts dog would try to go eat it when he honestly had food of his own down.
Then she would slip into our room here and there. My husband used to cuddle her every night as he slept. She would even work her way into his arms while he slept and would stay there all night. Well she hasnt done that in a very long time. And she peed on the bed once then when he was asleep and I was laying by him one night still awake, he jerks and yells. I freak out thinking something horrible happened. Finally he gets up turns on the over head and I over course wince cause ya know light...Eyes adjusted to the dark. Anyway she had peed on him! She has NEVER done this. Not even once. Then she stops coming in here except on rare occasions. Then she wouldnt stop meowing/yowling. I figured out it was cause ahe was hungry so I began to do anything and everything to get her to eat. Which was successful! However, yesterday as I lay trying to sleep though it was in afternoon, Ive got insomnia, she began to yowl again. My aunt yelled at her to shut up. I finally had enough. I got up and brought her to our room shut the door and put her down. I crawled back in bed and covered up. She got under the blankets and stayed there like for hours. Never once coming out to go potty. Or even to let me know she needed to leave the room cause she didnt wanna use the litter box in here.
My husband comes home from work. I uncover her to check on her. I leave the blankets off to try and get her to go get some water or something. She literally just squats on the blanket and pees. I nudge her to try and get her to stop and go to the litter box because I didnt know if I picked her up if itd just make a huge mess. She proptly flopped over and kept peeing. While laying on her side. The thing is my husband and I use separate blankets. Because he is a blanket hog. I literally wake up in the night freezing cause he took all the blankets. There is only one we can share that is large enough to allow it. Well he had been using that one and another to keep warm here as we have a window a/c in our room, a large fan on a table, and the ceiling fan going at night and all day except the table fan. I had thrown that thin blanket over my semi bulky one...Its old and needs to just be used as something to lay on the bed cause the stuffing in it is scattered and some places its just the fabric of the blanket.
She seemed to really be aiming for the thin blanket which mainly smelled of him cause he had been the main person using it.
Then today after I got up qnd came back from going potty myself I again uncover her but this time put her in the litter box and get her to stay for a minute maybe a minute and half but nothing. So I sit on the bed and watch her. Then I look away for a moment. Next thing I know she is peeing on the blanket I used to cover up because the main one I had been using had pee on it. But heres the thing, that blanket is identical to the blanket I had been using only its blue and not black. The blue blanket is actually my husband's and he let me use it cause he knew itd be warmer for me. Well, when I curled up in it avoiding the foot end if the bed where there is still a wet feeling, we spayed it with a special enzymatic cleaner and cleaned it but its still wet...I noticed it smelled just like him. Well I push it to his side after getting up cause I was gonna lay back down and cover up with it as Im tired still. But she pees on it! At first I thought it was cause I used it and woke her up but then I noticed something. She did not pee on anything of mine, or even me. Everything has been his or on him.
Plus she runs away from him whenever he gets near. And last night she wiggled her way under the blanket with me. When he lifted the blanket to get her she kept wiggling further and further away from him until she was at my feet...
I know this is seriously not normal behavior for her or really any cat. I am going to take her to the vet with him once he and I can save up enough money. But I was wondering if anyone had any ideas as to why she is doing this? She doesnt cry out qhen peeing, or even seems to be in pain or irritated when moving or peeing or anything. And I literally saw her go poo in the litter box last night.
I know cats arent spiteful, and they dont hold grudges like a human, or even do things out of anger or annoyance.
Could she be stressed, anxious, or scared or something? Cause this isnr normal for her. She honestly loved laying on him, cuddling him, just plain being near him. Now she wants absolutely nothing to do with him and is peeing on his stuff/side of the bed/things he has used that has his scent the strongest.
I am very sorry this is so long, and I am so sorry if this is not the right part of the forum to put this. I really just wanted to give all the details I could so the situation could better be understood. Thank you for reading, and thank you for any advice. Have a wonderful night/day.
My husband and I moved in together about a year and a month or two ago. He brought with him two cats and a dog. I had alreqdy had two cats, a bearded dragon, and a dog. Our roommate, my aunt also had a dog. At the time my mom was living with us qlso had a dog.
My mom has since moved out with her dog. One of my cats mainly stays outdoors. I know, I know...Thats honestly not ideal. But I cannot force her to stay in. She is spayed. My other cat is neutered.
One of the cats my husband brought was spayed and declawed on the front. We were not her original owners and we would never declaw a cat. That is just cruel.
She was 16 years old. Sadly we had to put her down due to a serious medical issue. The doctor said he could do surgery but my husband and I agreed we should just put her down. It was a very hard choice. I broke down sobbing. Still want to cry about it.
The other cat also female was not fixed. Mainly because where he previously lived in another state it was extremely expensive. Then he moved here to my home state with me. I got him an appointment with our local Humane Society to get her fixed.
She is spayed and all healed up now. But lately she has begun to pee outside the litter box. Orginally our 16 year old would go to the back door and pee and poo there. We tried everything we could to stop her. Trying new litters, cleaning, and even trying a litter box in the livingroom where she mainly stayed. And still nope...
We also took her to the vet but he didnt find anything wrong. As I said before we sadly had to put her down. She raised my husband's other cat though they are not related.
We kept an eye on her to be sure if we needed to do something we would. Then his dog passed away not too long ago. That is when it really began.
My indoor male cat began to stay in a closet all day and night. Only venturing out for a little food or water when no one was looking. Finally when he was out my husband quickly shut the door...He has been staying in our room since.
But the real issue is the female cat that is my husband's. We both love her very much. And I know everyone reading this is wondering why I am going off track and not stating the problem. I kinda thought a little background would help.
Suddenly when his dog who was 14 or 15 passed away she too began acting strange. Goint potty by the back door. Hiding in a window behind the lizards cage. Refusing to eat any food placed down in the room we usually had one litter box two kennels for our big dogs, and the lizard. Not even my male cat would eat in there anymore. It was strange but we then got two new bowls for food as the old large one we had some how got busted.
We placed the smaller ones on the floor of our room. They began eating right away. So we placed a litter box in here and left the other in animal room as we call it. Still the female cat kept going by the back door and began to not come into our room. At all unless we picked her up and brought her in. Usually itd have to be me. She wouldnt even touch the food in our room. I began having to feed her out in the dining room/kitchen area but would have to put the food up immediately after she walked away or my aunts dog would try to go eat it when he honestly had food of his own down.
Then she would slip into our room here and there. My husband used to cuddle her every night as he slept. She would even work her way into his arms while he slept and would stay there all night. Well she hasnt done that in a very long time. And she peed on the bed once then when he was asleep and I was laying by him one night still awake, he jerks and yells. I freak out thinking something horrible happened. Finally he gets up turns on the over head and I over course wince cause ya know light...Eyes adjusted to the dark. Anyway she had peed on him! She has NEVER done this. Not even once. Then she stops coming in here except on rare occasions. Then she wouldnt stop meowing/yowling. I figured out it was cause ahe was hungry so I began to do anything and everything to get her to eat. Which was successful! However, yesterday as I lay trying to sleep though it was in afternoon, Ive got insomnia, she began to yowl again. My aunt yelled at her to shut up. I finally had enough. I got up and brought her to our room shut the door and put her down. I crawled back in bed and covered up. She got under the blankets and stayed there like for hours. Never once coming out to go potty. Or even to let me know she needed to leave the room cause she didnt wanna use the litter box in here.
My husband comes home from work. I uncover her to check on her. I leave the blankets off to try and get her to go get some water or something. She literally just squats on the blanket and pees. I nudge her to try and get her to stop and go to the litter box because I didnt know if I picked her up if itd just make a huge mess. She proptly flopped over and kept peeing. While laying on her side. The thing is my husband and I use separate blankets. Because he is a blanket hog. I literally wake up in the night freezing cause he took all the blankets. There is only one we can share that is large enough to allow it. Well he had been using that one and another to keep warm here as we have a window a/c in our room, a large fan on a table, and the ceiling fan going at night and all day except the table fan. I had thrown that thin blanket over my semi bulky one...Its old and needs to just be used as something to lay on the bed cause the stuffing in it is scattered and some places its just the fabric of the blanket.
She seemed to really be aiming for the thin blanket which mainly smelled of him cause he had been the main person using it.
Then today after I got up qnd came back from going potty myself I again uncover her but this time put her in the litter box and get her to stay for a minute maybe a minute and half but nothing. So I sit on the bed and watch her. Then I look away for a moment. Next thing I know she is peeing on the blanket I used to cover up because the main one I had been using had pee on it. But heres the thing, that blanket is identical to the blanket I had been using only its blue and not black. The blue blanket is actually my husband's and he let me use it cause he knew itd be warmer for me. Well, when I curled up in it avoiding the foot end if the bed where there is still a wet feeling, we spayed it with a special enzymatic cleaner and cleaned it but its still wet...I noticed it smelled just like him. Well I push it to his side after getting up cause I was gonna lay back down and cover up with it as Im tired still. But she pees on it! At first I thought it was cause I used it and woke her up but then I noticed something. She did not pee on anything of mine, or even me. Everything has been his or on him.
Plus she runs away from him whenever he gets near. And last night she wiggled her way under the blanket with me. When he lifted the blanket to get her she kept wiggling further and further away from him until she was at my feet...
I know this is seriously not normal behavior for her or really any cat. I am going to take her to the vet with him once he and I can save up enough money. But I was wondering if anyone had any ideas as to why she is doing this? She doesnt cry out qhen peeing, or even seems to be in pain or irritated when moving or peeing or anything. And I literally saw her go poo in the litter box last night.
I know cats arent spiteful, and they dont hold grudges like a human, or even do things out of anger or annoyance.
Could she be stressed, anxious, or scared or something? Cause this isnr normal for her. She honestly loved laying on him, cuddling him, just plain being near him. Now she wants absolutely nothing to do with him and is peeing on his stuff/side of the bed/things he has used that has his scent the strongest.
I am very sorry this is so long, and I am so sorry if this is not the right part of the forum to put this. I really just wanted to give all the details I could so the situation could better be understood. Thank you for reading, and thank you for any advice. Have a wonderful night/day.