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TLDR: I’m getting another kitten and my current one will probably be around a year old when that happens because I plan to get one from the same breeder and I feel bad for making him go from a kitten that had lots of playmates, to no playmates, to having to share his space with another cat. Would it be too much change for him in such a short time? It will probably be around this October. I got my current kitten in early January. He is almost 4 months old.
SIDE QUESTION IF YOU HAVE MORE TIME: I'm also in school but it's all remote right now. I have let my kitten roam in and out of the room and he was great the first day. I feed, play, and check his litter box each time but yesterday he was more hyper than usual and kept jumping on me and the desk and my laptop. I just kept putting him back on the floor. I even tried aluminum foil but he didn't seem to care at all. Would it be ok to leave him out of the room during my classes? My schedule isn't the usual 8-3 because I'm in grad school but I have one day where two classes are back to back so the longest he'd not be allowed in the room with me is about 3-4 hours. Would this be ok? I just worry because I have no other animals or people in my apartment and it's only barely been a month since he's been with me. I don't want to make him sad or feel like I don't love him because I do and this is why I finally talked to the breeder about getting another kitten from her though sadly that won't be for a while.
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Sorry in advance for the rant but here’s the back story:
I got a ragdoll almost a month ago and I’m a new fur mom in general, let alone a new kitty mom. I know everyone says it’s best to get cats in pairs but I just felt I couldn’t do it and decided to go with one because I didn’t want to overwhelm myself with all the costs upfront for two (we all know how expensive these babies are and for good reason obviously but also food, vet, etc.) and just taking care of two kittens in general because I’ve had pets before but now it would be just me taking care of them and I’ve never done that.
I know Ragdolls are super social and I’m home A LOT especially during lockdown so I didn’t think the kitten would be lonely. I only ever leave for necessities like food, picking up meds, etc. I know the breeder was a little hesitant to let him go to a home without another especially because I also don’t have other pets for him to play with but she thought was ok with it cause I’d be home a lot though she did tell me he still might get bored because he’s used to having other cats to play with and humans just can’t give cats the type of play they enjoy with other cats.
I always had the idea of getting another one in the near future but I was just so worried because I have really bad anxiety and all this was a completely new change for me and I’ve never had such a huge responsibility. My kitten is amazing but I still had some anxiety because I felt like I’d given up my old life of freedom if that makes sense? I never had anyone else to worry about and be responsible for. It was just a big adjustment for both of us and I kept thinking he deserves better than me. I still think that but at least I’m not crying about it anymore lol (I’m ridiculous, I know).
Things are better now because I think we’re getting used to each other. I give him so much love and attention and we play so much. Yesterday he seemed kind of off and of course, as a new kitty mom, I panicked but tried to stay calm. He just seemed off his own schedule. Suddenly playing harder than usual and he was playing and sleeping at different times than usual. I talked to the breeder and asked if this is because they’re going through lots of growth and I thought with intense growth comes more sleep to grow and more energy to burn but she said it has nothing to do with growth, they just have a lot of energy in general so they can get intense then will sleep a lot, more so if they’re bored.
One of my biggest worries other than health and safety of course is boredom. I never want my little love to be bored!! And so I felt awful that I dragged him away from his playmates and that feeling that maybe I shouldn’t have gotten him and let him go to a family that had other pets came back full force.
Anyway, since I was always thinking of getting a second one later on, it convinced me to put in a deposit to get on her waitlist for a second one but it won’t be for a while due to some circumstances and my kitten will probably be about a year old by then. But now I’m also worried because I feel like I’m being cruel for taking him to a home that has no other pets and making him see this is his new normal and suddenly he has to share his space with another cat.
I genuinely think he’d do better with a playmate and I do regret not getting two off the bat but I feel awful from making him go through these changes in such a short amount of time. Especially because cats hate change. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! And if you’ve made it through this whole post, thank you so much!
TLDR: I’m getting another kitten and my current one will probably be around a year old when that happens because I plan to get one from the same breeder and I feel bad for making him go from a kitten that had lots of playmates, to no playmates, to having to share his space with another cat. Would it be too much change for him in such a short time? It will probably be around this October. I got my current kitten in early January. He is almost 4 months old.
SIDE QUESTION IF YOU HAVE MORE TIME: I'm also in school but it's all remote right now. I have let my kitten roam in and out of the room and he was great the first day. I feed, play, and check his litter box each time but yesterday he was more hyper than usual and kept jumping on me and the desk and my laptop. I just kept putting him back on the floor. I even tried aluminum foil but he didn't seem to care at all. Would it be ok to leave him out of the room during my classes? My schedule isn't the usual 8-3 because I'm in grad school but I have one day where two classes are back to back so the longest he'd not be allowed in the room with me is about 3-4 hours. Would this be ok? I just worry because I have no other animals or people in my apartment and it's only barely been a month since he's been with me. I don't want to make him sad or feel like I don't love him because I do and this is why I finally talked to the breeder about getting another kitten from her though sadly that won't be for a while.
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Sorry in advance for the rant but here’s the back story:
I got a ragdoll almost a month ago and I’m a new fur mom in general, let alone a new kitty mom. I know everyone says it’s best to get cats in pairs but I just felt I couldn’t do it and decided to go with one because I didn’t want to overwhelm myself with all the costs upfront for two (we all know how expensive these babies are and for good reason obviously but also food, vet, etc.) and just taking care of two kittens in general because I’ve had pets before but now it would be just me taking care of them and I’ve never done that.
I know Ragdolls are super social and I’m home A LOT especially during lockdown so I didn’t think the kitten would be lonely. I only ever leave for necessities like food, picking up meds, etc. I know the breeder was a little hesitant to let him go to a home without another especially because I also don’t have other pets for him to play with but she thought was ok with it cause I’d be home a lot though she did tell me he still might get bored because he’s used to having other cats to play with and humans just can’t give cats the type of play they enjoy with other cats.
I always had the idea of getting another one in the near future but I was just so worried because I have really bad anxiety and all this was a completely new change for me and I’ve never had such a huge responsibility. My kitten is amazing but I still had some anxiety because I felt like I’d given up my old life of freedom if that makes sense? I never had anyone else to worry about and be responsible for. It was just a big adjustment for both of us and I kept thinking he deserves better than me. I still think that but at least I’m not crying about it anymore lol (I’m ridiculous, I know).
Things are better now because I think we’re getting used to each other. I give him so much love and attention and we play so much. Yesterday he seemed kind of off and of course, as a new kitty mom, I panicked but tried to stay calm. He just seemed off his own schedule. Suddenly playing harder than usual and he was playing and sleeping at different times than usual. I talked to the breeder and asked if this is because they’re going through lots of growth and I thought with intense growth comes more sleep to grow and more energy to burn but she said it has nothing to do with growth, they just have a lot of energy in general so they can get intense then will sleep a lot, more so if they’re bored.
One of my biggest worries other than health and safety of course is boredom. I never want my little love to be bored!! And so I felt awful that I dragged him away from his playmates and that feeling that maybe I shouldn’t have gotten him and let him go to a family that had other pets came back full force.
Anyway, since I was always thinking of getting a second one later on, it convinced me to put in a deposit to get on her waitlist for a second one but it won’t be for a while due to some circumstances and my kitten will probably be about a year old by then. But now I’m also worried because I feel like I’m being cruel for taking him to a home that has no other pets and making him see this is his new normal and suddenly he has to share his space with another cat.
I genuinely think he’d do better with a playmate and I do regret not getting two off the bat but I feel awful from making him go through these changes in such a short amount of time. Especially because cats hate change. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! And if you’ve made it through this whole post, thank you so much!