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I've been part of this forum ever since I had my baby Humphy in 2022. I've posted multiple times here about his behaviour, he's such a wonderful, lovely and gentle cat but ever since he was as young as 5 months, he's shown some really clear traits of anxiety, boredom and frustration and i've never been able to work out why/how to rectify it. He's now 2 years old and still showing this behaviour.
I love him so much and I don't want to let him go, but every single day i question whether what I am giving him is fair. I really feel that he'd benefit from
1. Being in a bigger space, I live in a 1 bedroom apartment with no balcony and enough space for running around in but not really for an energetic cat
2. Being with another cat, not an option for me for reason above and also for financial reasons too
I got him as a kitten hoping i could wean him into being the cat I wanted, but I've since learnt that is a pipe dream. He's from a breeder, the only experience of living with other cats is simply being with his mother and his siblings until 3 months old. The reason i've been able to go this long with this whining and meowing is because despite it all, he has adapted to my schedule and he does show traits of being happy everyday.
I've put him on some anti anxiety meds in his earlier years but have stopped all o fthem due to side effects. Just got Zylkene today by suggestion of my vet so fingers crossed this will do something.
I'm not really looking for ideas as i've really done all of them besides the getting a new cat one. This could be the answer but I also live alone, and I am not prepared to deal with the back firing if this does not work as a single person living alone with no help. I cannot imagine the stress of dealing with two cats that do not get along, having to potentially rehome a cat i just got and the stress this would put on humphrey
I do love the experience of just having 1 cat, and i've seen it work for some people - its just such a bummer it didn't for me. Even though I did not get the type of cat I wanted, i still love and cherish Humphrey so so much, i don't want to let go of him. But I do think about how his quality of life would be imprved if he went to a better suited home all the time.
I've been part of this forum ever since I had my baby Humphy in 2022. I've posted multiple times here about his behaviour, he's such a wonderful, lovely and gentle cat but ever since he was as young as 5 months, he's shown some really clear traits of anxiety, boredom and frustration and i've never been able to work out why/how to rectify it. He's now 2 years old and still showing this behaviour.
I love him so much and I don't want to let him go, but every single day i question whether what I am giving him is fair. I really feel that he'd benefit from
1. Being in a bigger space, I live in a 1 bedroom apartment with no balcony and enough space for running around in but not really for an energetic cat
2. Being with another cat, not an option for me for reason above and also for financial reasons too
I got him as a kitten hoping i could wean him into being the cat I wanted, but I've since learnt that is a pipe dream. He's from a breeder, the only experience of living with other cats is simply being with his mother and his siblings until 3 months old. The reason i've been able to go this long with this whining and meowing is because despite it all, he has adapted to my schedule and he does show traits of being happy everyday.
I've put him on some anti anxiety meds in his earlier years but have stopped all o fthem due to side effects. Just got Zylkene today by suggestion of my vet so fingers crossed this will do something.
I'm not really looking for ideas as i've really done all of them besides the getting a new cat one. This could be the answer but I also live alone, and I am not prepared to deal with the back firing if this does not work as a single person living alone with no help. I cannot imagine the stress of dealing with two cats that do not get along, having to potentially rehome a cat i just got and the stress this would put on humphrey
I do love the experience of just having 1 cat, and i've seen it work for some people - its just such a bummer it didn't for me. Even though I did not get the type of cat I wanted, i still love and cherish Humphrey so so much, i don't want to let go of him. But I do think about how his quality of life would be imprved if he went to a better suited home all the time.