Long - apologies in advance.
Suki - Female - 4ish - fixed
Chester - Male - 1yr old - fixed
Suki is a blue, very chillled independent kitty, but likes attention sometimes and will come to you.
We got chester, a tiny energetic tabby when he was a couple of months old, and they've been together almost a year now but things still aren't fantastic.
Went through the "meeting" process, seperated for a week, fed separately and slowly introduced them, it went okay, but as said, Suki is an independent cat and you only see her ocassionally.
I think the problem is Chester is too energetic, but the gf is at her wit's end now, and things appear to be getting worse.
Basically, he attacks her, not everytime the're together, but most of the time. It doesn't appear malicious, but we're not sure. He has bundles of energy and it just looks like he wants to play whenever he sees her, he follows us around, comes on command, plays fetch etc. We play with him as much as we can.
He had 6 other litter mates, and when he was smaller he obviously didn't cause any damage to Suki so we figured he'd have learnt how to play, but we're not sure now, this is why the problem appears to have got worse, because he's bigger now, and possibly hurting her, it's distressing Suki much more.
He'll jump on her, paws around neck, I'm sure he wants to play, but she does not, ever. Suki doesn't play with us either, hasn't since she was a kitten, but Chester still hasn't grasped that and will go after her till she's growling, hissing and shrieking the place down and runs off to hide!
Will he learn she's not interested in playing? Will he ever settle?
He's got 3 scratching posts, countless other toys, 2 cat towers, cat tent, play tubes, and we use a laser pen - that's the only thing that ever tires him, but even then after 15 minutes he's ready to go again.
This past couple of weeks seems to be worse, more fights than usual, and now Suki hides from us and growls if we try and get her, there's been no changes in environment we can think of.
He's also quite vocal, he now sleeps separate and locked away as we weren't sleeping from either the fights at 4am, or him scratching at the door, he's got better with separation though, but he could still be less clingy! haha.
They have reign of house and are together for 9hrs a day while we're at work, and we've not come back to Suki injured yet, maybe some missing fur, so we don't think its an Alpha male thing, or malicous, she is sometimes in hiding spots when we come home though, which is a concern.
On the flipside, you'll find them sometimes grooming each other, curled up together, sleeping together, although this is maybe once a week, and usually when he's sleepy so she's definitely taken to him, and they do get along, but these fights aren't playing, because Suki doesn't do that.
Suki will also hiss and paw at him when he gets close, even when he hasn't done anything yet now, but not everytime, her tail isn't up, but it isn't down either.
Helps us? it's really distressing my gf now, she's in tears some nights.
Suki - Female - 4ish - fixed
Chester - Male - 1yr old - fixed
Suki is a blue, very chillled independent kitty, but likes attention sometimes and will come to you.
We got chester, a tiny energetic tabby when he was a couple of months old, and they've been together almost a year now but things still aren't fantastic.
Went through the "meeting" process, seperated for a week, fed separately and slowly introduced them, it went okay, but as said, Suki is an independent cat and you only see her ocassionally.
I think the problem is Chester is too energetic, but the gf is at her wit's end now, and things appear to be getting worse.
Basically, he attacks her, not everytime the're together, but most of the time. It doesn't appear malicious, but we're not sure. He has bundles of energy and it just looks like he wants to play whenever he sees her, he follows us around, comes on command, plays fetch etc. We play with him as much as we can.
He had 6 other litter mates, and when he was smaller he obviously didn't cause any damage to Suki so we figured he'd have learnt how to play, but we're not sure now, this is why the problem appears to have got worse, because he's bigger now, and possibly hurting her, it's distressing Suki much more.
He'll jump on her, paws around neck, I'm sure he wants to play, but she does not, ever. Suki doesn't play with us either, hasn't since she was a kitten, but Chester still hasn't grasped that and will go after her till she's growling, hissing and shrieking the place down and runs off to hide!
Will he learn she's not interested in playing? Will he ever settle?
He's got 3 scratching posts, countless other toys, 2 cat towers, cat tent, play tubes, and we use a laser pen - that's the only thing that ever tires him, but even then after 15 minutes he's ready to go again.
This past couple of weeks seems to be worse, more fights than usual, and now Suki hides from us and growls if we try and get her, there's been no changes in environment we can think of.
He's also quite vocal, he now sleeps separate and locked away as we weren't sleeping from either the fights at 4am, or him scratching at the door, he's got better with separation though, but he could still be less clingy! haha.
They have reign of house and are together for 9hrs a day while we're at work, and we've not come back to Suki injured yet, maybe some missing fur, so we don't think its an Alpha male thing, or malicous, she is sometimes in hiding spots when we come home though, which is a concern.
On the flipside, you'll find them sometimes grooming each other, curled up together, sleeping together, although this is maybe once a week, and usually when he's sleepy so she's definitely taken to him, and they do get along, but these fights aren't playing, because Suki doesn't do that.
Suki will also hiss and paw at him when he gets close, even when he hasn't done anything yet now, but not everytime, her tail isn't up, but it isn't down either.
Helps us? it's really distressing my gf now, she's in tears some nights.
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And even a short time outside is worth it. You can grow some real grass for your kitties. You can also put bird feeders and baths out on your terrace for them (just be sure to hang them high.) If your garden doesn't do it you can do what I originally was talking about. Take him for a walk around the block. Yes it does look little weird but more and more cat owners are doing it. My first garden my hyper punk got access to was a glorified alley they called a 'yard' (they are called patio homes but really it is just an alley decorated to look like a yard.) Most of it was concrete with some planter beds. I hung a hummingbird feeder and my cat LOVED it!
