Hello everyone!
I have been having a frustrating time, losing sleep, and trying to be patient. I really need some good advise other than the same YouTube videos I have been watching. And to be honest, I also need to vent a little lol.
I have a sweet and amazing 7 year old female calico tabby (Munchie). She was a rescue with a history of neglect. She is super loving, lazy, and affectionate with humans. Not so much with other animals, but she has warmed up to some in the past. I have wanted another cat for a while, and was told by my vet and a number of people who work with animals that she would be best suited to a male kitten.
I just adopted a 7 week old male, all black kitten (Salem). I tried the approach of keeping them separated with food on either side of the door, introducing each others' scent, etc. I have also been sleeping on my couch with Munchie so that she does not feel I am taking preference of the new kitten.
He just wants to play with her, but she absolutely hates him. There is the typical growling and hissing, but she arches her back up like she's ready to attack him, or hold her paw up with claws out.
Here are my biggest concerns:
Thank you SO much for taking the time to listen and I appreciate any advice
I have been having a frustrating time, losing sleep, and trying to be patient. I really need some good advise other than the same YouTube videos I have been watching. And to be honest, I also need to vent a little lol.
I have a sweet and amazing 7 year old female calico tabby (Munchie). She was a rescue with a history of neglect. She is super loving, lazy, and affectionate with humans. Not so much with other animals, but she has warmed up to some in the past. I have wanted another cat for a while, and was told by my vet and a number of people who work with animals that she would be best suited to a male kitten.
I just adopted a 7 week old male, all black kitten (Salem). I tried the approach of keeping them separated with food on either side of the door, introducing each others' scent, etc. I have also been sleeping on my couch with Munchie so that she does not feel I am taking preference of the new kitten.
He just wants to play with her, but she absolutely hates him. There is the typical growling and hissing, but she arches her back up like she's ready to attack him, or hold her paw up with claws out.
Here are my biggest concerns:
- If I put Salem in a carrier in the middle of the main room, or if he walks around the main room, she ignores him - the only interaction they get is when Salem runs up to her wanting to play, and she gets mad at him, growls, hisses, or tried to slap him with her claws out
- I suspect that Munchie has a poor sense of smell, so there is a chance my efforts to get her used to his scent are futile
- I have my bedroom (~120 sq ft.) set up for Salem with his food, water, litter, a kitten bed, lots of toys, and I come in quite often to feed and play with him - despite this, he cries out a lot wanting out to explore the rest of the apartment, often darts out so I can't catch him, and I hate having to keep him confined/hearing him cry
- I have let them interact face-to-face, but I am always right above them, ready to scoop up Salem at any moment in case Munchie attacks him - it is difficult to give them their natural space to interact when I have to be there on guard
- and my BIGGEST fear - Salem is literally less than a pound and Munchie is 16 lbs - what if she killed him? I would never be able to live with myself
Thank you SO much for taking the time to listen and I appreciate any advice