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Hi all. Sorry in advance for a long first post.
I am here today with a heavy heart and a question that makes me sad. I have had my fur baby Twigs, who i love more than I could ever love any animal, since he was a very small kitten. Now he is 7 years old, and I am backed into a corner in terms of what to do with him.. It seems my only option is to give him to a friend.
My situation is this: I am marrying a wonderful man next week who is not only allergic to cats, but also has severe asthma that is worsened by the cat, and has been to the hospital a few times with breathing problems since we moved in together. Initially I tried having Twigs live in his own area of the house, but he is so social (more like a dog than a cat in temperament really) that he was miserable alone. So then, I tried giving him a cat door as well, so that he could get some stimulation and socialization outside. That went great for about a year and he loved it. Then two weeks ago he was attacked by a dog and needed surgery. Fortunately, he will survive and is recovering well. But I obviously don't want hm going outside anymore.
I feel like my only options short of endangering my fiance's life are making the cat miserable (isolated) or putting him in harms way (allowing access to the outdoors). I hate even the thought of losing him, but if that's the only way for him to be happy I will do it.
I have a friend who agreed to take him. But here is my question (finally): will he remember me/miss me/ feel that his mommy abandoned him? I feel so heartbroken over the thought of that. But part of me feels like, maybe he wouldn't mind as long as he goes to a loving home? I don't know.. Do cats even feel "abandonment"?
Thanks for reading if you got this far. I just want to give the backstory before I ask about how rehoming will effect my baby.
I am here today with a heavy heart and a question that makes me sad. I have had my fur baby Twigs, who i love more than I could ever love any animal, since he was a very small kitten. Now he is 7 years old, and I am backed into a corner in terms of what to do with him.. It seems my only option is to give him to a friend.
My situation is this: I am marrying a wonderful man next week who is not only allergic to cats, but also has severe asthma that is worsened by the cat, and has been to the hospital a few times with breathing problems since we moved in together. Initially I tried having Twigs live in his own area of the house, but he is so social (more like a dog than a cat in temperament really) that he was miserable alone. So then, I tried giving him a cat door as well, so that he could get some stimulation and socialization outside. That went great for about a year and he loved it. Then two weeks ago he was attacked by a dog and needed surgery. Fortunately, he will survive and is recovering well. But I obviously don't want hm going outside anymore.
I feel like my only options short of endangering my fiance's life are making the cat miserable (isolated) or putting him in harms way (allowing access to the outdoors). I hate even the thought of losing him, but if that's the only way for him to be happy I will do it.
I have a friend who agreed to take him. But here is my question (finally): will he remember me/miss me/ feel that his mommy abandoned him? I feel so heartbroken over the thought of that. But part of me feels like, maybe he wouldn't mind as long as he goes to a loving home? I don't know.. Do cats even feel "abandonment"?
Thanks for reading if you got this far. I just want to give the backstory before I ask about how rehoming will effect my baby.