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Around a month and a half ago my boyfriend and I got a seven week old female kitten (her mother was run over which is the only reason we got her so young). We already had a three and half year old male cat, Beni. We confined Malika (kitten) to the bathroom for three days and then let them meet. In the beginning everything seemed fine, Beni would growl and hiss once in a while if she was annoying him but they would also groom each other, play and sleep together.
Recently it seems like he is constantly annoyed by her. At seven weeks old she was less active and coordinated, now that she's three months old she is incredibly active. We play with her a lot but it seems she has endless energy. The problem is that she is constantly pouncing on Beni to try and get him to play but he just hisses, growls and runs away most of the time. He does occasionally swat at her to try to get her to stop but she doesn't care at all and keeps pouncing. When this happens I try to distract her with a toy or put her in the bathroom for a bit so she can calm down and he can go to his cat tree or somewhere she won't annoy him. They still sometimes play together, groom each other, and sleep together which seems good to me.
I know I probably rushed the introduction but I don't have sufficient space to separate them properly. It seems cruel to keep either of them locked in a small bedroom or a small bathroom which are the only rooms I could put them in. We also can't take in another kitten for her to play with which is what I would love to do. I'm pretty hopeful once she calms down they will get along because Beni likes her when she's not in attack mode. But it seems cruel for him to be stressed for 8+ more months while she grows out of the kitten phase. I'm a little bit at a loss here
I don't know if I'm overthinking things and they will work out their relationship or if there's something else I should be doing? My biggest fear is to have to rehome Malika them in a year because things didn't work out between them
Any advice? Anyone been in a similar situation that worked out or didn't? I want to do what's best for both of them
Recently it seems like he is constantly annoyed by her. At seven weeks old she was less active and coordinated, now that she's three months old she is incredibly active. We play with her a lot but it seems she has endless energy. The problem is that she is constantly pouncing on Beni to try and get him to play but he just hisses, growls and runs away most of the time. He does occasionally swat at her to try to get her to stop but she doesn't care at all and keeps pouncing. When this happens I try to distract her with a toy or put her in the bathroom for a bit so she can calm down and he can go to his cat tree or somewhere she won't annoy him. They still sometimes play together, groom each other, and sleep together which seems good to me.
I know I probably rushed the introduction but I don't have sufficient space to separate them properly. It seems cruel to keep either of them locked in a small bedroom or a small bathroom which are the only rooms I could put them in. We also can't take in another kitten for her to play with which is what I would love to do. I'm pretty hopeful once she calms down they will get along because Beni likes her when she's not in attack mode. But it seems cruel for him to be stressed for 8+ more months while she grows out of the kitten phase. I'm a little bit at a loss here
I don't know if I'm overthinking things and they will work out their relationship or if there's something else I should be doing? My biggest fear is to have to rehome Malika them in a year because things didn't work out between them
Any advice? Anyone been in a similar situation that worked out or didn't? I want to do what's best for both of them