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I have a cat that I’m very concerned about. He is super shy (almost feral), and seems to be getting worse, not better, like I would hope. I am wondering if he needs more intervention than just giving him time to settle in, and am wanting the perspective of other cat owners.
When we adopted him, he would hang out inside without a problem, and would jump on my lap and my Dad’s lap. The first time I was aware that he was shy was when he did a disappearing act when my sister came over.
At this time, he will not voluntarily stay on anyone’s lap (expect maybe mine, if my parents are out of the house and he’s tired). He will not let anyone but me pick him up. He startles when I’m holding him and my Dad comes close (sometimes when my Mom comes close too). He has started to not stay in the house (if given the choice, he will bolt out to the garage or up to my room). He gave my Dad a nasty scratch (and frightened the cattery owner), when my Dad picked him up from the cattery.
He was in the local Banfield, this Saturday for an obstruction, and was diagnosed with urinary crystals. When asked about stress, my Mom said that she doesn't think he's ever not stressed. So, I think that part of effective treatment would be to calm things down. My goal would be to get him to where he can live with us calmly (I don't care about strangers, but I do care when he starts acting afraid of my parents, since he sees them every day. I also care about the not wanting to be inside, since that is new).
He's a super friendly cat to me (and apparently got along well at the foster home he was in) and has never been aggressive, except when trying to get away.
I was hoping you might be able to point me in the right direction to help him.
When we adopted him, he would hang out inside without a problem, and would jump on my lap and my Dad’s lap. The first time I was aware that he was shy was when he did a disappearing act when my sister came over.
At this time, he will not voluntarily stay on anyone’s lap (expect maybe mine, if my parents are out of the house and he’s tired). He will not let anyone but me pick him up. He startles when I’m holding him and my Dad comes close (sometimes when my Mom comes close too). He has started to not stay in the house (if given the choice, he will bolt out to the garage or up to my room). He gave my Dad a nasty scratch (and frightened the cattery owner), when my Dad picked him up from the cattery.
He was in the local Banfield, this Saturday for an obstruction, and was diagnosed with urinary crystals. When asked about stress, my Mom said that she doesn't think he's ever not stressed. So, I think that part of effective treatment would be to calm things down. My goal would be to get him to where he can live with us calmly (I don't care about strangers, but I do care when he starts acting afraid of my parents, since he sees them every day. I also care about the not wanting to be inside, since that is new).
He's a super friendly cat to me (and apparently got along well at the foster home he was in) and has never been aggressive, except when trying to get away.
I was hoping you might be able to point me in the right direction to help him.