I have a major problem right now...
My father's side of the family are driving me nuts!
Christmas in our family (besides his side) have always been that Christmas TO US (just to be clear I know this is not what everyone believes!) has been about the birth of Christ...
Anyway that really isn't the point.
Now my father's side is all into the most EXPENSIVE present one can get, and it always feels like a competition of who can out-do the others. I have always gone along with it, but for the past 2 years living with Brandon, he has shown me just how stupid this is..
My Mom's side has always shown me this but I never listened
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This year I am prepared to spend AT THE MOST $20. I do not have extra money to spend on people who think the worst of me (but never say it directly, except once, some of you may remember my thread about cutting my father's ties to me, well, I didn't, I can't)
Why can't I let go? I don't know... even my therapist can't figure it out..
He's my daddy, I love him..... Why doesn't he love me?
Now, I know that they will be royally P*SSED OFF if I buy cheap gifts... I know it is the thought that counts, but they don't.
Tonight I was asked what I got for presents by my step-mother, and I didn't say anything... At that point, she "let me know" that others have spent major cash on me and I should do the same!
I can't, I don't want to, and I feel like telling them all to shove whatever they got me where the sun doesn't shine, but I would feel horrid doing that...
I don't want to care, why do I?
What would you do in this situation?
My father's side of the family are driving me nuts!
Christmas in our family (besides his side) have always been that Christmas TO US (just to be clear I know this is not what everyone believes!) has been about the birth of Christ...
Anyway that really isn't the point.
Now my father's side is all into the most EXPENSIVE present one can get, and it always feels like a competition of who can out-do the others. I have always gone along with it, but for the past 2 years living with Brandon, he has shown me just how stupid this is..
My Mom's side has always shown me this but I never listened
This year I am prepared to spend AT THE MOST $20. I do not have extra money to spend on people who think the worst of me (but never say it directly, except once, some of you may remember my thread about cutting my father's ties to me, well, I didn't, I can't)
Why can't I let go? I don't know... even my therapist can't figure it out..
He's my daddy, I love him..... Why doesn't he love me?
Now, I know that they will be royally P*SSED OFF if I buy cheap gifts... I know it is the thought that counts, but they don't.
Tonight I was asked what I got for presents by my step-mother, and I didn't say anything... At that point, she "let me know" that others have spent major cash on me and I should do the same!
I can't, I don't want to, and I feel like telling them all to shove whatever they got me where the sun doesn't shine, but I would feel horrid doing that...
I don't want to care, why do I?
What would you do in this situation?