What would you do if you were in my situation? Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ll try to be brief. I have a neighbor who lives next door to my house. I, however, donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t live in my house yet as Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m doing some major work on it. Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve had my house for quite some time now. Lately, Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve been finding cigarette butts in my driveway. Yes, people throw them out of their cars as they are driving along the street. Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve always found them at the foot of my driveway and in the space of grass between the street and the sidewalk. But as of about 2 or 3 months ago, Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve started to find them way down my driveway. I know that itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s not possible that all of a sudden, the wind is blowing them that far down my driveway. I am 99% sure that it is my neighbor who is doing it. I noticed that the cigarettes were all the same and immediately assumed that it was him throwing them over my fence into my driveway. Then one day, I noticed a different kind of cigarette butt and thought that maybe it wasnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t him after all. He often smokes outside on his little front porch and then just throws his cigarette butts in his front yard. He never picks them up….mows his grass right over them and chops them up. So one day, I saw him drive off. So I went around the fence into his front yard where he throws them and checked it out. What did I find?!! Two different kinds of butts…..the same kind I keep finding in my driveway. Another reason I know they are not being blown down my driveway from the street is that they still have ashes attached to them. When I pick them up, they fall off. If they were blowing down my driveway from the street, the ashes would get knocked off as it tumbled down my driveway. At the moment, I am just throwing them back over the fence into his yard. I know that might sound childish, but I think heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s childish for throwing them over in the first place. I take VERY good care of my yard and it is always neat and clean. I am not going to have him throwing his trash over my fence. I discussed this with my mother and she asked me, “but why would he be throwing them over the fence into your driveway?†And my answer to her was, “because I think heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s mad that I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t talk to him anymore.†The reason that I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t talk to him anymore is because a long time ago, he asked me to take nude photographs of him to replace the ones he had of himself that were stolen out of his van when his van was stolen. I told him “absolutely not!†I think the best thing I could have done was just to turn and walk away from him, but I was in shock. I continued to talk to him for awhile after that, but slowly started to feel a little creeped out by him…especially when one day I was working in my garage and looked up at the window to find him standing there at the fence watching me through the window. I slowly started to distance myself from him and it is now to the point where I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t utter one word to him or even look at him if heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s outside.
So, what would you do? Would you confront him or just leave it alone? I, for now, will continue to throw them back over the fence when I find them……and I find them there on my driveway EVERY DAY. It is obvious that he only throws them over when he knows I am not there (when my car is not in the driveway). Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve thought about asking him, “Robert, youâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]re not throwing your cigarette butts over into my driveway, are you?†Or, Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve thought about going over there, parking my car elsewhere, and setting up my video camera in one of the windows in my house…..that way if I do decide to approach him about it, if he denies it, I will have proof.
So, what would you do? Would you confront him or just leave it alone? I, for now, will continue to throw them back over the fence when I find them……and I find them there on my driveway EVERY DAY. It is obvious that he only throws them over when he knows I am not there (when my car is not in the driveway). Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve thought about asking him, “Robert, youâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]re not throwing your cigarette butts over into my driveway, are you?†Or, Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve thought about going over there, parking my car elsewhere, and setting up my video camera in one of the windows in my house…..that way if I do decide to approach him about it, if he denies it, I will have proof.