A few days ago I posted about finding out that my ex-b.f. of two years, with whom I broke up not two months ago, has been seeing a "friend with benefits" for over a month, even though he's claimed to be heartbroken and pained. I've had on kid gloves trying to step carefully into a friendship, and it turned out he's been more than ok for quite some time!
I was totally devastated, as I still care deeply about him and he's insisted on remaining friends. PLUS, he wasn't even the one who told me... I found out about her through a set of photos he posted on Flickr! He and his "friend" are hiking, hugging, snuggling, laying down, with lots of pictures of her from behind, if you know what I mean. I cried all day and all night, completely stunned by his insensitivity and inability to be upfront with me, and those pictures have been running through my head like a non-stop slideshow.
HOWEVER, once I got all the bawling out, and after hours of consulting with my incredible friends, I realize that I have so many things to be thankful for!
-I'm thankful that I know now exactly why I broke up with him, and I am now positive that he is not the one for me. I've had a difficult time putting into words why I ended our relationship, but now I have the right words!
-I'm thankful that I know now what I want (and DON'T want) in a partner.
-I'm thankful for all of my amazing friends without whom I never could have put myself back together so well and so quickly.
-I'm thankful that I have a place like TCS to share my experiences and get extra support! The replies I got from my previous post helped me tremedously.
I never thought I'd say this, I have to give some credit to Oprah. After seeing her show on "The Secret", it occurred to me that there is something to be learned from (and thankful for) everything, no matter how awful the situation. The feelings and thoughts you put out, positive or negative, will only come back to you tenfold. So f I keep dwelling on how hurt I am, all I'm going to receive in return is pity. And I don't want pity, I want to move on!
I won't claim I'm 100% over it, as I'm still trying to get that dumb slideshow out of my head! But I feel great, and strong, and soooo thankful.
HOWEVER, once I got all the bawling out, and after hours of consulting with my incredible friends, I realize that I have so many things to be thankful for!
-I'm thankful that I know now exactly why I broke up with him, and I am now positive that he is not the one for me. I've had a difficult time putting into words why I ended our relationship, but now I have the right words!
-I'm thankful that I know now what I want (and DON'T want) in a partner.
-I'm thankful for all of my amazing friends without whom I never could have put myself back together so well and so quickly.
-I'm thankful that I have a place like TCS to share my experiences and get extra support! The replies I got from my previous post helped me tremedously.
I never thought I'd say this, I have to give some credit to Oprah. After seeing her show on "The Secret", it occurred to me that there is something to be learned from (and thankful for) everything, no matter how awful the situation. The feelings and thoughts you put out, positive or negative, will only come back to you tenfold. So f I keep dwelling on how hurt I am, all I'm going to receive in return is pity. And I don't want pity, I want to move on!
I won't claim I'm 100% over it, as I'm still trying to get that dumb slideshow out of my head! But I feel great, and strong, and soooo thankful.