I've been battling this issue for the past 6+ months.
I've had my two cats for almost 6 years now. My female cat in particular was always the sweetest, kindest cat i've ever seen. I tend to be a very calm, quiet person and mostly speak to them in a very quiet, loving tone. We had moved back home to live with my mom about 3 years ago and since that time, its been me and them.
About a year ago, my boyfriend moved in here with us and his 2 yr old daughter is here part time as well. In the beginning my boyfriend got along wonderfully with both my cats, no problems at all. Both cats are truly wonderful with his daughter. Suddenly my female cat starting acting odd around my boyfriend. She is still to this day, she is so loving to me and everyone else like nomral, but whenever she sees my boyfriend she hisses and freaks out. Needless to say this is really starting to get him angry, as it would anyone. He is literally the only one she does this too. I've asked him time and time again to just ignore her, but now its getting out of hand and he is just getting more and more angry.
After months of this, when she hisses and flips (never biting) he starts yelling and screaming about it, which in my opinion is just making things worse for her. He and I discussed today him trying to just ignore her for a while and not react to her when she does hiss, hopefully in an attempt to regain her trust. If this doesnt work, do you think medication would be a good alternative to calming her down for a while? I can't bare the thought of getting rid of either of my cats or my dogs and I personally won't entertain the thought. Especially sicne she isnt aggressive towards anyone else at all. I also don't want to love my boyfriend and end my relationship over something like this either. The cat is clearly frightening of him. He really isnt a quiet person at all, he's loud. He's tried hard in the beginning to get affection from her and it was going great, she would sleep on his chest and go to him like normal, but something about him now just scares her.
Can anyone offer me any advice or words to help me feel better and let me know this isnt hopeless? I hope I havent painted him as a monster, he isnt. My male cat loves him. I really dont understand what it could be. I do have a vet apt for her this week, hopefully they can help me out as well.
Thanks,
Denise
I've had my two cats for almost 6 years now. My female cat in particular was always the sweetest, kindest cat i've ever seen. I tend to be a very calm, quiet person and mostly speak to them in a very quiet, loving tone. We had moved back home to live with my mom about 3 years ago and since that time, its been me and them.
About a year ago, my boyfriend moved in here with us and his 2 yr old daughter is here part time as well. In the beginning my boyfriend got along wonderfully with both my cats, no problems at all. Both cats are truly wonderful with his daughter. Suddenly my female cat starting acting odd around my boyfriend. She is still to this day, she is so loving to me and everyone else like nomral, but whenever she sees my boyfriend she hisses and freaks out. Needless to say this is really starting to get him angry, as it would anyone. He is literally the only one she does this too. I've asked him time and time again to just ignore her, but now its getting out of hand and he is just getting more and more angry.
After months of this, when she hisses and flips (never biting) he starts yelling and screaming about it, which in my opinion is just making things worse for her. He and I discussed today him trying to just ignore her for a while and not react to her when she does hiss, hopefully in an attempt to regain her trust. If this doesnt work, do you think medication would be a good alternative to calming her down for a while? I can't bare the thought of getting rid of either of my cats or my dogs and I personally won't entertain the thought. Especially sicne she isnt aggressive towards anyone else at all. I also don't want to love my boyfriend and end my relationship over something like this either. The cat is clearly frightening of him. He really isnt a quiet person at all, he's loud. He's tried hard in the beginning to get affection from her and it was going great, she would sleep on his chest and go to him like normal, but something about him now just scares her.
Can anyone offer me any advice or words to help me feel better and let me know this isnt hopeless? I hope I havent painted him as a monster, he isnt. My male cat loves him. I really dont understand what it could be. I do have a vet apt for her this week, hopefully they can help me out as well.
Thanks,
Denise