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I had to update this; I either just did something really stupid or really caring, I'm not sure which. I called my neighbor, the one DD has moved in with, and asked if he'd meet me in the alley to talk. Of course he said yes, and we did. I asked him how my daughter is; I asked why he was letting her stay at his home. She had told him she didn't have anywhere else to go. I asked if DD had told him how she'd loaded her car in the middle of the night and DH and I didn't know she was moving out until we discovered her stuff was gone. Well, no--she didn't tell him that. She said she'd had to move out because we didn't like her boyfriend. I let him know that was a really bad reason to move out and he agreed. I also let him know that she has 2 grandmothers that each live 5 blocks from us; if she'd really needed a place to go she could have gone to either one. I told him about her Dad driving around town at 3 a.m. looking for her car because he was so worried.
He told me the bf had shown up at his door at 11:30 last night; he didn't care for that, and he was going to tell her that wasn't going to happen again.
I asked him to please give her a time frame to find herself a new place to live. I apologized to him for DD putting him in the middle of her mess. And as much as I hate to admit it, I bawled like a baby. I let him know she had been planning to move for several months to prove she could make it on her own, and that living in his home and taking advantage of his hosptality wasn't proving anything.
I don't know if I helped the situation any or if I've totally screwed up. No, I don't want her back in my home. The drama would kill me. I do want her out of the neighbor's home and standing on her own 2 feet. It kills me that she's taking advantage of this sweet man, and I would love to kick her butt into next week. He even gave her a key to his house, for pete's sake. Unbelievable.
He told me the bf had shown up at his door at 11:30 last night; he didn't care for that, and he was going to tell her that wasn't going to happen again.
I asked him to please give her a time frame to find herself a new place to live. I apologized to him for DD putting him in the middle of her mess. And as much as I hate to admit it, I bawled like a baby. I let him know she had been planning to move for several months to prove she could make it on her own, and that living in his home and taking advantage of his hosptality wasn't proving anything.
I don't know if I helped the situation any or if I've totally screwed up. No, I don't want her back in my home. The drama would kill me. I do want her out of the neighbor's home and standing on her own 2 feet. It kills me that she's taking advantage of this sweet man, and I would love to kick her butt into next week. He even gave her a key to his house, for pete's sake. Unbelievable.