I'm not sure who all posted on the thread where I said my Hubby and I were separating... We fully planned on it, looking for houses, I went to stay with my mom (but my 2 yr. old couldn't take it and threw a major fit, biting herself and hit her head twice on the wall before I got her restrained... then she refused to sleep and kept saying dad-dy, so we came home I couldn't take it) So anyways, we lived together but were planning a separation (which was really uncomfortable)...Then one night he offered to watch the baby so I could go out with friends, and as I was driving to town it was like all my anger and fury just kind of slowly dissipated. I didn't want to be with my friends.... I wanted to be home with him, I wanted my husband, family, and life back. So home I went, and we talked all night about all the things we both wanted to see change....so that is how it's going now for everyone who sent good thoughts, advice, and support, thank you all... It will be a long road but we are working on it. He even suggested going to church as a family (something I've wanted for a long time, but he told me never to ask him when we met)... Apparently someone up there wants us to stay together because the anger I felt is completely gone and originally I wanted nothing more than to get away.