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I have a 5 month old female kitten that we go 2 months ago, and I've been rather emotional throughout these 2 months. I wanted a cat since January, but my parents (I'm a minor) said that I would have to wait until summer break in order to get one. After 4 excruciatingly long months, summer began to approach and I was excited beyond belief. My mother, grandmother, and I went to the Humane Society just to look at some cats and get ourselves hyped up, we weren't planning on actually bringing anything home since it was still a week until summer break. However, we saw this one adorable little 3 month old kitten who just wanted to be held and pet and would fall asleep whenever we did so. She was so much calmer than all the other kittens, even her brother who we had just seen and wasn't interested in pets or snuggles at all, only playing. I was very hesitant, since I already had plans to visit some adult cats that I had seen online in foster care, but my mother and grandmother eventually convinced me. I fell in love with her and brought her home that day.
Well, let's just say she wasn't who I thought she'd be. The reason she was so calm and sleepy was because she was under the effects of anesthesia from her spaying surgery she had just gotten that day. We weren't told that until after the fact. The next day, she was zipping about and as hyper as you'd expect from a kitten. This didn't bother me too much, I could handle playing, but she wasn't as affectionate anymore. She didn't like to be held, she was very jumpy and skittish, and while she did head bonk when I held out my hand, she only slid along it before walking away again. She tolerates pets but doesn't ask for them. But she did love to snuggle. Everyday in the afternoon, she'd come and snuggle with me only the bed with her head on my lap. It was the cutest thing ever and I loved it. And yet after about 3 weeks, she just stopped. She still snuggled occasionally I guess, but not everyday like before. The amount of headbonks she'd give decreased, she followed me around less, and she stopped purring. I was pretty sad, but eventually got over it, and accepted that she would stay this way.
Except she got even worse. Now, she never snuggles, never gives headbonks, and never follows me around. She doesn't even sleep anywhere near me anymore, let alone ON me. I have to come up to her in order to pet her, and she still doesn't like that very much. I just don't understand, she came from a nice, affectionate mother and was handled a when she was a only a few weeks old (what I've been told). It completely breaks my heart when I so much as look at her, knowing that I'll never have the affectionate cat that I waited for what felt like forever just to have. I've considered giving her up to my grandmother at multiple points during these 2 months, but I know I could never actually do it. I still do love her, and everywhere I look I'd be reminded of her, which would only cause me more anguish than I already feel. Besides, I'd have to wait until next summer again in order to get another cat. 4 months was awful, 10 months would be unbearable. My family is also completely infatuated with her, I'd be breaking their hearts as well. Now that my mother has been diagnosed with breast cancer, I don't want to bring anymore stress or sadness to my family. I honestly wish I would have just walked out of that shelter and just gotten one of the foster cats, at least that way I wouldn't be lingering on "what if?". I already posted this same post on catforum.com, but that was a month ago before she dipped even further. Please, if anyone has any advice as to how I can deal with this or make her more affectionate, it would be greatly appreciated.
Well, let's just say she wasn't who I thought she'd be. The reason she was so calm and sleepy was because she was under the effects of anesthesia from her spaying surgery she had just gotten that day. We weren't told that until after the fact. The next day, she was zipping about and as hyper as you'd expect from a kitten. This didn't bother me too much, I could handle playing, but she wasn't as affectionate anymore. She didn't like to be held, she was very jumpy and skittish, and while she did head bonk when I held out my hand, she only slid along it before walking away again. She tolerates pets but doesn't ask for them. But she did love to snuggle. Everyday in the afternoon, she'd come and snuggle with me only the bed with her head on my lap. It was the cutest thing ever and I loved it. And yet after about 3 weeks, she just stopped. She still snuggled occasionally I guess, but not everyday like before. The amount of headbonks she'd give decreased, she followed me around less, and she stopped purring. I was pretty sad, but eventually got over it, and accepted that she would stay this way.
Except she got even worse. Now, she never snuggles, never gives headbonks, and never follows me around. She doesn't even sleep anywhere near me anymore, let alone ON me. I have to come up to her in order to pet her, and she still doesn't like that very much. I just don't understand, she came from a nice, affectionate mother and was handled a when she was a only a few weeks old (what I've been told). It completely breaks my heart when I so much as look at her, knowing that I'll never have the affectionate cat that I waited for what felt like forever just to have. I've considered giving her up to my grandmother at multiple points during these 2 months, but I know I could never actually do it. I still do love her, and everywhere I look I'd be reminded of her, which would only cause me more anguish than I already feel. Besides, I'd have to wait until next summer again in order to get another cat. 4 months was awful, 10 months would be unbearable. My family is also completely infatuated with her, I'd be breaking their hearts as well. Now that my mother has been diagnosed with breast cancer, I don't want to bring anymore stress or sadness to my family. I honestly wish I would have just walked out of that shelter and just gotten one of the foster cats, at least that way I wouldn't be lingering on "what if?". I already posted this same post on catforum.com, but that was a month ago before she dipped even further. Please, if anyone has any advice as to how I can deal with this or make her more affectionate, it would be greatly appreciated.