Hi there,
I’m hoping I can get some advice. I have a rag doll mix cat that is two in a half yrs old.
I got him in June 2018. He was 3 mos old. I found him from a lady on FB who was selling the liter. I have never done anything like that
before and wasn’t educated in “ signs” to look for. The first sign she wouldn’t let us in her home. I honestly thought well, with three little
kids running outside it’s probably a tornado in there, I don’t blame her. The second sign, she knew we drove almost two hours and she kept bringing out the wrong kitten, I made it clear to her the kitten I wanted from the pictures. Finally she brings out the kitten in the picture and his eyes were goopy. I asked why and she didn’t know. She then kept saying this one is real shy, you don’t want “ her”. She told me it was a girl. ( He’s not). I took him and left. My friend said every time she opened the door she saw tons of cats roaming around in the house. I get home and call the vet immediately to get him in for a check up. I explained everything to my vet, she said it sounded like a animal abuse situation. My heart dropped after the vet I called the appropriate number to have this lady looked into. (I’ve never seen another ad w/ her selling cats again) He did have a nasty upper respiratory infection is why his eyes were goopy, got him on meds, he was good to go.
Ok, that’s the back story. Now, since June 18’ he’s been w/ me. Since day one he’s been extremely skittish to any unusual sound. He’s not a cuddler or approaches me for cuddles. Sometimes I’d say twice a week he’ll lay in front of me and let me pet him. Only purrs when I brush him. I say let’s do brushies and treatises and he comes running into his room( I have a room set up w/ everything cat you can think of for them, I have one other cat, a 3 in a half ya old purebred seal point Siamese) and, in the morning when he gets his FF he purrs and rolls on the ground. And, meow meow meows up a storm. Other than that never a purr or meow out of him.
In July 18’ I discovered feliway. I use it every month. I live in a little two bedroom apartment. It has never worked for him. But, I keep trying.
He’s like a little puppy, he does love to play. I play w/ him every single day. Maybe I give him too much attention? He zooms around just fine. It’s so hard to explain this, he’s heard let’s say the dishwasher a million times but, some days that’ll freak him out. He’ll get high alert, then grouch down like he’s scared. This fear will last about 30 secs to a minute. It’s always something every day, a few times a day. If I can whatever the sound is I’ll stop it immediately. It’s just me in the apartment. I’m a quiet person.
basically, he scares easily and isn’t a cuddly cat. Does he need medication? If so where do I begin trying to figure out what’s FIRST SAFEST for him and what’s best? It breaks my heart when he gets scared. What can I do? It’s been two in a half years. Can being treated badly his first 3 months scar him forever? My other boy, Ollie is a lover. He shows so much affection, purrs up a storm, always wants to be on my belly BUT wants nothing to do w/ the other ( Pookie) Now, Pookie just ADORES Ollie. That’s a whole bother thread.
Am I being wrong thinking Since Ollie is a cuddler I shouldn’t assume Pookie will be, too?
Any help, advice, suggestions would be so, so appreciative. Thank you.
I’m hoping I can get some advice. I have a rag doll mix cat that is two in a half yrs old.
I got him in June 2018. He was 3 mos old. I found him from a lady on FB who was selling the liter. I have never done anything like that
before and wasn’t educated in “ signs” to look for. The first sign she wouldn’t let us in her home. I honestly thought well, with three little
kids running outside it’s probably a tornado in there, I don’t blame her. The second sign, she knew we drove almost two hours and she kept bringing out the wrong kitten, I made it clear to her the kitten I wanted from the pictures. Finally she brings out the kitten in the picture and his eyes were goopy. I asked why and she didn’t know. She then kept saying this one is real shy, you don’t want “ her”. She told me it was a girl. ( He’s not). I took him and left. My friend said every time she opened the door she saw tons of cats roaming around in the house. I get home and call the vet immediately to get him in for a check up. I explained everything to my vet, she said it sounded like a animal abuse situation. My heart dropped after the vet I called the appropriate number to have this lady looked into. (I’ve never seen another ad w/ her selling cats again) He did have a nasty upper respiratory infection is why his eyes were goopy, got him on meds, he was good to go.
Ok, that’s the back story. Now, since June 18’ he’s been w/ me. Since day one he’s been extremely skittish to any unusual sound. He’s not a cuddler or approaches me for cuddles. Sometimes I’d say twice a week he’ll lay in front of me and let me pet him. Only purrs when I brush him. I say let’s do brushies and treatises and he comes running into his room( I have a room set up w/ everything cat you can think of for them, I have one other cat, a 3 in a half ya old purebred seal point Siamese) and, in the morning when he gets his FF he purrs and rolls on the ground. And, meow meow meows up a storm. Other than that never a purr or meow out of him.
In July 18’ I discovered feliway. I use it every month. I live in a little two bedroom apartment. It has never worked for him. But, I keep trying.
He’s like a little puppy, he does love to play. I play w/ him every single day. Maybe I give him too much attention? He zooms around just fine. It’s so hard to explain this, he’s heard let’s say the dishwasher a million times but, some days that’ll freak him out. He’ll get high alert, then grouch down like he’s scared. This fear will last about 30 secs to a minute. It’s always something every day, a few times a day. If I can whatever the sound is I’ll stop it immediately. It’s just me in the apartment. I’m a quiet person.
basically, he scares easily and isn’t a cuddly cat. Does he need medication? If so where do I begin trying to figure out what’s FIRST SAFEST for him and what’s best? It breaks my heart when he gets scared. What can I do? It’s been two in a half years. Can being treated badly his first 3 months scar him forever? My other boy, Ollie is a lover. He shows so much affection, purrs up a storm, always wants to be on my belly BUT wants nothing to do w/ the other ( Pookie) Now, Pookie just ADORES Ollie. That’s a whole bother thread.
Am I being wrong thinking Since Ollie is a cuddler I shouldn’t assume Pookie will be, too?
Any help, advice, suggestions would be so, so appreciative. Thank you.
