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We have four cats, and two cannot seem to adjust to each other. All are from shelters at different times, so I do not know what their earliest experiences were. All are also spayed or neutered. We have an approximately 14 year old male, Meeko, who is mostly a loner but can be affectionate with people, only. Then we have a female, Sassy, who is approximately 3 years old, a female, Foxy, approximately 2 years old, and a male, Friend, who is about 3 years old. Friend was a feral cat, and part of a colony of community cats I feed with a few other neighbors. A woman who has been feeding for 11 years says he was born outdoors and was never in a home, but he was so friendly and engaging that I trapped him and brought him home. He's a great cat and is loving and intelligent, but has become the Alpha male. Sassy's personality has changed since I brought Friend home. She used to be somewhat distant, but enjoyed being petted for short periods of time. Now she's skittish, avoidant, nervous, and goes after Friend constantly. I introduced them after about 10 days, and that may have been too soon, but I was on vacation at the time so could keep them separate and give everyone attention. I have too small a place to lock one of them away all day while my husband and I are at work. After about a week of being together, Sassy started attacking Friend. At first it was just a few swats and a growl or hiss, but now it's just short of the fur-flying stage. The shrieks happen several times a day. We've tried a calming spray, feeding them separately, giving each affection (which Sassy mostly runs from), and introducing an extra cat perch Any ideas? Re-homing is not an option. I don't know anyone who I could trust to keep her, and besides, we really want to find a way to make this work.