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We just adopted a 2yr old from the shelter. She was adjusting as well. Hiding under the bed at first but coming out for petting and food etc within hours. She eventually started exploring the rest of the house and was happily following us all around mewing for attention. Then three days after we got her my husband decided she should play with him more and everything went downhill. He'd try to roughhouse with her, chase her about. He didn't mean any harm, he's just used to fearless kittens not timid cats. We both had cats growing up but he seems to think it's her not him that's the problem. How do I teach my stubborn husband to stop trying to force the cat to pay attention to him and convince the cat not to be scared of him. He get's frustrated that the cat runs away from him when he tries to play with her. I've told him to sit, be still, don't make eye contact, let her come to him but he doesn't have the patience for that. As a result she's terrified of him and won't even come into the same room as him. She'll stay upstairs until I bring her down and will only eat when I'm with her and if my husband starts to walk towards her she'll bolt upstairs again. She's actually more scared now than she was two weeks ago when we brought her home. Ok, so this is sounding more like a therapy session, but has anyone been through this and have any advise?