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I have a BIG dilemma. We are hopefully moving out of state later this summer & already have an indoor, territorial female about 11 yrs old. I've been feeding a feral alpha male for about a yr or more outside daily now. But if we move, I don't want abandon him. Yet have been advised he'll never be able to socialize indoors even after vaccinated, etc. & for sure not w/ our indoor female cat.
I don't want to do anything wrong either way nor mess up either cat's lives, but have no idea if I should say bye to him & let him go on his own? If I do, it'll be hard on me, for sure, & on him as this apt complex is a mess & there are ferals out there. Problem is, I developed a bond w/ him ONLY (no other ferals) working daily & now he comes morn & nite to eat unless he misses a day or so.
Any advice would help. I would at very least TNR to make him less combative & lower his testosterone to help his longterm health. I know ferals have short lives in the wild, & in a city atmosphere too, so this worries me & makes me think I'm abandoning him. But others say no, he'll go back to finding food as he did prior to me feeding him (he's been seen here for about 3-4 yrs or so but no idea his real age). What a mess I made for him & myself.
I don't want to do anything wrong either way nor mess up either cat's lives, but have no idea if I should say bye to him & let him go on his own? If I do, it'll be hard on me, for sure, & on him as this apt complex is a mess & there are ferals out there. Problem is, I developed a bond w/ him ONLY (no other ferals) working daily & now he comes morn & nite to eat unless he misses a day or so.
Any advice would help. I would at very least TNR to make him less combative & lower his testosterone to help his longterm health. I know ferals have short lives in the wild, & in a city atmosphere too, so this worries me & makes me think I'm abandoning him. But others say no, he'll go back to finding food as he did prior to me feeding him (he's been seen here for about 3-4 yrs or so but no idea his real age). What a mess I made for him & myself.