My Juno was feral I got her at 5 months and she's going to be a year next week. She has always used her box and basically is a good cat. She still won't let me pet her unless its in the bathroom or when I come home from work she meets me and will let me pet her only if I sit on the recliner and she lays on the rug in front of me. She is afraid of strangers, but has gotten used to my adult daughter and grandson. Otherwise she runs and hides whenever anyone is at the door and will not come out until I'm alone. I don't think she will ever change but she's come a long way from when I first took her in. If I were you I would look into the animal shelters or humane soc. near you. She evidently is as unhappy as you are. Good luck in whatever you decide.