Hi! I am new to this site, but I am super desperate for some help. I adopted a cat from a local shelter about three months ago, he is a year and a half old. He is typically an extremely sweet boy, until he isn't. If he doesn't get his way he will attack, but I can typically see the signs and fend him off. He will just sit down and stare and then his eyes will dilate and his tail will start switching- this is when I know I have to start watching him. I can usually grab him by the scruff and support him at on his back feet and make him stare at me to show him he is not alpha and typically after a while he backs down. Although I have a friend and every time she comes over he is extremely aggressive towards her in particular. She won't even be doing anything and he goes right for her face/shoulders with no warning signs. She does have a male cat at home and he just got fixed (Mouse, my cat was fixed when I picked him up from the shelter), I know before this her cat had a problem spraying. He doesn't do this to any one else really. I am at a point though that I am really scared that he is going to seriously hurt someone because it just comes out of nowhere sometimes. I really don't know what to do and if I can't find a solution soon I will have to take him back to the shelter, but I really don't want to because I really love him. If anybody had any thoughts on what I could do to help this I would be so thankful.
PS: I've read a lot about aggression on cats online and I know that a big thing is play because the cat is bored, but I really don't feel like this is the issue- especially since he really targets my friend or tends to do it when he isn't getting his way. I just need him to not think he is the alpha in the house, but I don't know how to do that.
PS: I've read a lot about aggression on cats online and I know that a big thing is play because the cat is bored, but I really don't feel like this is the issue- especially since he really targets my friend or tends to do it when he isn't getting his way. I just need him to not think he is the alpha in the house, but I don't know how to do that.