Ok, as you all know I have 2 boys. 4½yrs(Deacon) 8½yrs (Justice).
Finally the last 4 months Justice has begun to straighten out so no real problems there. But Deacon, has us SO stressed out.
Today we went to the flea market with some friends of my husbands. Deacon was uncontrollable! He wouldn't stay with us, touching everything, and when we would correct him he would have a tantrum. People were staring at us like we were the worst parents in the world! We had his stroller with us and when he wouldn't behave we would make him sit down but withen 2 minutes he was climibing out of it. This was our first outing with his friend and his wife and now we are worried to death that they won't want to socialize with us now because of his behaviour. (they don't have children). We later went to the beach with them and her little sister. Deacon just ran out into the water (shoes and all) and kept wandering out further and further and no matter what I did he wouldn't come back. My husband had to actually come back from the water (they were wade fishing about 30 feet from shore) and pick him up and walk back to shore with him. We made him sit down 4-5 times withen 5 mins because he kept standing up and screaming that he wanted to go back in the water. I explained to him MANY times that if he was not going to listen and behave that he wasn't going to play in the water. I turned to check on Jake who was enjoying the water and no sooner did I turn back Deacon was 10 feet out in the water. I was ANGRY
at this point. I don't know what to do anymore. He doesn't listen to ANYTHING we tell him. Nothing at all! It's so embarrassing that we've gotten to the point that we dread family outings. He thinks he can do anything he wants when he wants.
I don't recall going through this with Justice though. He was defiant but not to the point that he's in danger. I try not to spank him but rather explain to him why we don't want him to do these things or why we DO want him to do these things but its not working. I have spanked him before when he's pushed me to the limit (like running out of the gate into the road when he's been told numerous times not to). He thinks he's invinsible... Does anyone have any suggestions? I talked to his pediatrician about it and she said it was normal for him to be defiant at this age. I mentioned that I had concerns about ADHD and she said he's too early to diagnose.... I am at my wits end with this child. I dread picking him up from daycare at times because I know it's going to be an endless fight to get him in the truck and even worse when we have to go to the store or anywhere for that matter.Sometimes I cry at night because I don't know where we've went wrong with the structure... Please help if you have any ideas or websites, or books....?
Finally the last 4 months Justice has begun to straighten out so no real problems there. But Deacon, has us SO stressed out.
Today we went to the flea market with some friends of my husbands. Deacon was uncontrollable! He wouldn't stay with us, touching everything, and when we would correct him he would have a tantrum. People were staring at us like we were the worst parents in the world! We had his stroller with us and when he wouldn't behave we would make him sit down but withen 2 minutes he was climibing out of it. This was our first outing with his friend and his wife and now we are worried to death that they won't want to socialize with us now because of his behaviour. (they don't have children). We later went to the beach with them and her little sister. Deacon just ran out into the water (shoes and all) and kept wandering out further and further and no matter what I did he wouldn't come back. My husband had to actually come back from the water (they were wade fishing about 30 feet from shore) and pick him up and walk back to shore with him. We made him sit down 4-5 times withen 5 mins because he kept standing up and screaming that he wanted to go back in the water. I explained to him MANY times that if he was not going to listen and behave that he wasn't going to play in the water. I turned to check on Jake who was enjoying the water and no sooner did I turn back Deacon was 10 feet out in the water. I was ANGRY
I don't recall going through this with Justice though. He was defiant but not to the point that he's in danger. I try not to spank him but rather explain to him why we don't want him to do these things or why we DO want him to do these things but its not working. I have spanked him before when he's pushed me to the limit (like running out of the gate into the road when he's been told numerous times not to). He thinks he's invinsible... Does anyone have any suggestions? I talked to his pediatrician about it and she said it was normal for him to be defiant at this age. I mentioned that I had concerns about ADHD and she said he's too early to diagnose.... I am at my wits end with this child. I dread picking him up from daycare at times because I know it's going to be an endless fight to get him in the truck and even worse when we have to go to the store or anywhere for that matter.Sometimes I cry at night because I don't know where we've went wrong with the structure... Please help if you have any ideas or websites, or books....?