Sandi, if you were the one who brought her to the vet and handled her then, that could be why she is a little more comfortable with hubby than you right now. Also, they are very keen to our feelings, so if you are nervous with her at night she senses that. In her mind she knows when she gets nervous she gets defensive and may attack to protect herself and she doesn't want you to do that to her. Sounds silly, but you have to try to think like a cat. (Highly recommended book by that name, BTW, "Think Like A Cat".) She may have bitten when you first caught her, but now as long as you don't push her too far (trying to pet before she is ready, etc.) and let her do things on her terms she won't. Obviously you are giving her her space, so there really isn't any reason to be nervous around her. Try to think happy, relaxing thoughts. The more relaxed you are, the more relaxed she will be.
I know how frustrating it can be when you want a kitty to love you so much and they choose another.
Ophelia is definitely Daddy's girl, and sometimes it breaks my heart. But we did have a breakthrough in our relationship this weekend. She actually has given me love-fests like she does Daddy, with the prancing and rubbing. Before, she would let me pet her a little, and she loved sleeping on me but she wouldn't give me affection like she did to him. There is hope!
She may be coming up on the bed while you are sleeping and you just don't know it. My Ophelia is very light on her feet and sometimes I don't even know she's there when I'm awake, let alone asleep.
Hubby probably didn't set her back, per se. He just pushed it too far, which she told him in no uncertain terms by swatting him. She's showing him her boundaries.
With her meowing, she could be going into heat. It does show she is getting more comfortable with her environment. I'm sure she didn't make a peep the first few days, trying to hide and make you think she wasn't really there.
Keep working on her. It takes unlimited patience, but she will come around. (Wow, this turned into a really long post! Oops!
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I know how frustrating it can be when you want a kitty to love you so much and they choose another.
She may be coming up on the bed while you are sleeping and you just don't know it. My Ophelia is very light on her feet and sometimes I don't even know she's there when I'm awake, let alone asleep.
Hubby probably didn't set her back, per se. He just pushed it too far, which she told him in no uncertain terms by swatting him. She's showing him her boundaries.
With her meowing, she could be going into heat. It does show she is getting more comfortable with her environment. I'm sure she didn't make a peep the first few days, trying to hide and make you think she wasn't really there.
Keep working on her. It takes unlimited patience, but she will come around. (Wow, this turned into a really long post! Oops!